Angry outbursts are rarely a good look. Especially on adults. Get some help from books, videos or therapists. You can improve if you give it some effort. It will be worth it.
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Category: Action
Make Hay While The Sun Shines
Growing up on a farm, this made a lot of sense. You had to work on sunny days. Now that I am no longer on a farm, this means something a little different to me.
It means work while you can. Work while you have the health and ability. While conditions are good, make the most of them.
Because on actual sunny days, I like to watch my kids play, stroll with my wife, go for a run, or have a siesta under a shady tree. Sometimes even drink a cold beverage.
Words and phrases can mean different things to different people or even the same people but in different circumstances.
Do the work, or go and play, while you can.
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Stay On Track
Review your progress daily (Step 6 of the 7 steps).
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Have A Purpose
If you haven’t ‘found’ a purpose by now, create one. Decide what you will focus on and go all in.
No complaints. No issues. Just get your head down and drive forward with every minute. Do not allow others to distract you. Firmly tell them not now or not today.
Do these things for a week. Then a month. Then continue. Your life will change immeasurably.
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Easy To Do And Easy Not To
Which easy will you choose? With easy also comes hard. If you always take the easy route, things are likely to get hard later on in life. If you do some of those harder things now, you can have things a little easier later in life.
So if its easy enough to do now, do it. Put in a little extra work and time. It will pay off over time. And that future you will appreciate it.
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Who Decided To Call Green Green?
Who created the word? Does someone get credit for it? Why did they call it ‘green’ and not ‘purple’, ‘cinade’ or ‘basketball?’
Why did someone choose these 26 letters? Or earlier letters than these? The creation and selection of these letters, words, sounds and phrases seems so strange.
They seem rather random. But also completely normal now that I am so used to them. They are the code and key to everything.
Pay attention to the words you use. They mean far more than you think.
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Why Versus Impact
Have you ever done something for one reason and then found that the impact was not what you wanted?
An example could be telling someone that you aren’t fond of their outfit, and they should change it, and they get angry at you.
You may have said that to protect them from going out in what you thought wasn’t very flattering for them. However, they may not have appreciated it because it’s their favourite, they like the style, it was a gift or some other reason.
Another example is if you drive a little faster in your car and then get flagged for speeding. You may have a good reason why you were speeding, but it rarely warrants being stopped to be ticketed or the cost of the ticket.
When taking action, having a good why is a great start. However, become aware of the intended and the unintended consequences before you go ahead.
Often the idea of the unintended consequences will shift your thinking. That may be better for everyone.
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Who Decides?
Someone always gets to decide. A judge, jury, media, influencer, criminal, teacher, professional, tradesman, client or child. The list continues.
The key is to try to make as many of your own decisions as possible. Stay healthy, so doctors don’t have to make decisions for you. Stay in safe areas so the criminals don’t get to decide how your life goes.
Same with staying out of trouble with police, make good decisions for you so the authorities don’t get to make decisions that affect your life.
Sometimes some person will decide you’re an -ist or -phobic. It could be accurate but may not be. They could use 1 data point out of 300. That may be enough for them and their standard.
People’s opinion can wield incredible power. Please use your power well. With great power comes great responsibility. Your decision to use certain words can have a similar impact as an executioner’s sword.
Deciding to destroy a person and their family, first by reputation, then it hits financially and finally physically, is not something to take lightly or in a casual conversation.
Who decides often depends on the circumstances. Be kind.
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Eat More Veggies
But go easy on the Hummus. Everything will get better for you.
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Keep Things Calm
Be careful how you speak and what you say. When you get a bit excited, anxious or passionate, it’s easier to say things that alienate others, even while you might be trying to get them on your side.
Stay away from name calling and moral superiority. Stick to the facts and know they may interpret the same facts differently. Be kind. Understand your intent.
It’s too easy to lose family, friends, partners and others by chastising them or saying things that aren’t very kind, just because they have a different view of things.
Otherwise you become part of the problem, not the solution.
Keep things calm.
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