How we hold to our beliefs is fascinating. We hold on and hold on until finally something happens. Something changes our mind. We may see something different, maybe from a different angle, perspective or setting and boom, we decide enough is enough.
We hit exasperation and say that’s it. We can only hold on to old thoughts for so long. With new evidence, the truth or a slight opening of our mind, we can see the world in a different way and want that better reality.
If you can do this one thing, you might change your whole life. Distractions can get you off track and it can be hard to get back on it.
We feel first. But do we reflect on those feelings properly and often enough?
We have an ability to understand ourselves better yet few people take the pause to really consider this.
If you feel harshly about someone, what is the real feeling from? Don’t consider why you think you feel that way. Rather, try to understand what it is that is creating the actual feeling for you.
Nudge people forward in the direction they need to go. Sometimes people are so deep in the trees that they can’t see the forest.
People can make sweeping judgements based off of one interaction. Try to catch yourself before this happens in your life.
If you let yourself go with the flow of feeling, it can be easy to make broad statements about people that are unlikely to be even vaguely accurate.
It’s too easy to have one bad interaction with a foreign national and then say all of them are like that. Our mind tries to protect us from all of the similar bad plants, animals, people, etc. The nuance that this is one bad person, or even one bad situation involving that person, is hard to sift out.
If one politician says something you don’t like, you might say something charged about all politicians, without proof, experience or knowledge.
Remember too, this works both ways. When you are arguing for or against something, you are representing a host of people that look, sound, are titled, or are in a club just like you. Those others will get smeared by the same brush used to tarnish you. Try not to give people the opportunity to associate you with negative things.
Movement is very beneficial to your body and mind. Rivers flow, winds blow, seasons change and the world is renewed through movement.
So move your body more today. Think different thoughts. You don’t have to accept them as true but try sitting with those thoughts for a minute or two. Move them around in your mind. Look at the ideas from different angles. Stretch yourself to understand the idea even if you don’t accept it as your preferred thought.
If you choose to believe people are bad, you’ll look for evidence of it. And you’ll find it. Sometimes it’s one anecdotal event or word. Or you might bend words or slightly misinterpret actions to fit your desired perspective.
You can also look for the good in people.
As everyone holds good and bad characteristics, looking for the good ones may make life more enjoyable.
What thought always brings a smile to your face? Is it a future dream, a childhood moment, a time of pride from sports, school or family or simply a fond memory of watching clouds float by?
Whatever it is, be sure to overuse it. Think of it often and enjoy the smile. Like kindling for a fire it can enable a warm and enjoyable environment.
Play to win! But play a great game. A well fought battle is far better than a hollow victory. If you feel you earned it, it will taste much sweeter. And any loss will be easier to absorb.
