You need to search for it within. Do some soul searching. Have some tough conversations with yourself. Then act on it. Slow or fast but get going in that direction. It will become more clear as you bounce along that route.
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Category: Observe
Be More Accurate, Especially In Grouping People
I like to include others as much as the next person might, but more accuracy in our speech could help tone things down at the moment. When a person talks about we, they, all, it is rarely accurate. Few things involve 100% of a specific demographic, especially the larger ones.
Men don’t speak for all 4 billion men. Women don’t all have the same values as each other. There are black conservatives and Catholic liberals.
Look around this great big world. Regardless of our physically distinctive attributes, the mindsets inside are unique to every human. Someone from the English countryside may have more in common with someone from Thailand than London.
People tend to sort their preferences on the detail of each individual topic. It is presumptive to assume a particular person will share the exact same view on a topic as you. And remember what happens when you assume.
Their is strength and power in numbers but lets relax how many people we try to include in our group. It is more honest and accurate.
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900 Reasons
To celebrate. To reflect. To be proud. To be satisfied. Why? Well, because this is my 900th consecutive daily blog post! ?
What started out several years ago as a personal challenge to write a daily blog post for 1 year – 365 days – has gone on a little longer.
I’ve had thousands of readers from 80 countries now. I’ve gotten so used to doing a daily blog, long or short, that it really is a habit that took discipline to get started.
So, happy 900th!! I hope you’ve enjoyed the posts, they’ve made you think and you feel like a better person for stretching your mind in different directions.
Thank you for reading and sharing. Let’s keep going! Maybe I’ll reach 1,100 or even 11,000. What topics would you like me to write more about? DM on Instagram or LinkedIn.
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Value Sorting
When you make decisions, you do so by sorting your values in a hierarchy. Sometimes that is why we find it hard to make a decision. If two important values are equally important we find it difficult to choose one over the other.
The value you put at the top of the hierarchy at any given time is your guiding factor in that moment. You can switch the top value depending on the subject at hand.
If winning is your core value, then anything else can be subordinated to that value. That is where cheating can enter the picture. However, it might not, if the persons value for fair play is higher than their desire to win.
So you can read someone’s value chart by the decisions they make. You can only read their value chart based on their current awareness though. If they haven’t become aware of the other values that could supersede or challenge their top one, then we can only see what they are doing with their current knowledge, self-awareness and personal bias.
Try to not project your story of them onto their value chart. You could say that a person is doing something for x or y reason. You really have no idea. But you can see what seems to be their highest value and get some insight into their intent. Have fun with this observational activity.
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Define Words First
If you’re planning something or having a chat, debate or discussion, it’s useful to define the key words first.
Pants in the UK are underwear in Canada. This is a minor but funny one.
When someone says they’ll call you first thing tomorrow, if it’s important, it’s a good idea to confirm an actual time.
One word getting a lot of air time at the moment is the word ban.
In a car context, if I drove on a road with a speed limit, you would not say cars were banned on this road. Yes, there is some regulation of the cars, but most people would not say cars are banned on that road.
If there were construction crews on the road ahead, and traffic was being regulated differently than some other nearby roads, most people would not say cars were banned on this road. They would recognise the different driving conditions, but they would not usually claim that they’ve been banned from that road.
Bear this in mind while consuming news and social media over the days and weeks ahead. Understand what the differences are, especially the limits, as differing limits are not the same as a ban.
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Gathering Momentum
In life, when you plant enough seeds, you are bound to gather some momentum come harvest time.
Think of times in your life where you networked, wrote letters, made calls and passed leaflets through letterboxes. You were trying to get the attention of someone, anyone.
Then someone returned your call. You were pleasant and effective. Word started to spread. More people were attracted to your message, product or service. And your good manners.
This is how every little business started and how all smaller businesses grew into larger ones. Some call it the Law of Attraction. Others say it is the result of sowing then reaping. Still others might conclude it is the hand of god.
Whatever you attribute it to, remember to prepare for, and take benefit from, gathering momentum when you do find it in your life.
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You Don’t Really Want It.
If you won’t sacrifice or put in the full effort required to get the results you want, then you have a wish, not a goal. You hope someone will come do it for you. You’re not intent on success. You want someone to give you what you want with no effort required on your part.
I can always tell who is fully committed to their desired results. They create a plan, put in the work, review their progress daily and get the results they were after.
Everyone else? They delude themselves with excuses, reasons and stories. Results don’t lie.
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Sunrise or Sunset?
Which do you prefer? Is it the energy, optimism and excitement of a dawning new day? Or would you rather the calming, closing curtain as the sun sets and you appreciate the day you had?
Leave your vote in the comments below.
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The Stories You Tell Yourself
Your stories and opinions don’t matter much to most other people. But they are made up of your biases, experiences and desired outcomes. Listen carefully to the words you choose and what they really mean.
The stories you tell are easily dismissed by others and rarely impact them. The real impact is on you and how you get on in the world. Make sure the stories are empowering not complaining.
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Long, Hot Days Of Summer
Is it just me, or are these some of the most amazing days of life?
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