You can change your circumstances.
Have hope. Create a vision. Make a plan. Work towards it.
Get through a day, a week and a month. It will get easier. Five years from now you’ll look back and be astounded with how far you’ve come and how different your life is.
Like in a game of chess, every move gets you closer to an outcome. The better you train, and play, the more favourable the outcome should be for you.
Life is very much the same.
Go test drive a car that is nicer than yours. Have a coffee in an opulent hotel restaurant. Find a great deal on the least expensive night of the year and stay in a nicer hotel than you usually would. Rent a slightly nicer rental car than normal.
Go shopping in more expensive stores during their sales. Pick one item you love, that is at an affordable price for you, and buy it.
As you slowly upgrade your experiences and surroundings, it will change the way you think, feel and experience or see the world.
Even if you don’t choose to upgrade permanently, due to budget or other considerations, treat yourself to it once a month or 4 times a year at least.
You’ll appreciate the differences.
Time heals wounds but you have to be patient. People need time to process information so you need to have patience.
You can attract things into your life but you need to act now and yet still be patient.
It’s a great skill to master. Practice it every day.
Stay in the flow. Don’t get sidetracked. Remain obsessed on the one super goal. Work until exhausted or completed. Start immediately after any rest and repeat until completed.
When an opportunity looks good, jump fast. Moving quickly can make all the difference.
Do your due diligence, but do it quickly. Work with your gut feeling but have data that backs it up reasonably well.
Use this four step process to reach your exciting dreams. These are the very basic steps.
It does take some effort to think things through and to write it all down. The writing helps you hone in on the specific detail.
Take 60 minutes every month and review this plan. You should add new dreams to it then too.
Go on! Dream a little.
Get creative. Remember your childhood dreams. Think of new dreams. Write all of these down.
Get them in some sort of priority order. Perhaps start with the easiest to achieve. Then the least expensive to most expensive. You definitely want a list of things that are to do before I am unable to.
Start mapping these dreams out on a calendar. Things you’ll do this year go on there now and the rest get years and months written next to each item.
Get these dropped into your life. Then work like heck to make each one happen.
Just over 5 years ago I started writing a daily blog. I set out to work every day for one year. I wasn’t sure I’d get through three months.
But I set it in my head that every day I just had to do this one thing. Some have been long and some have been short. Regardless, I have always done one. Every. Single. Day. More than 1,830 days and therefore 1,830+ blog posts.
Whoosh. Five years can go by just like that.
Now, a few more plans are hatching for these next five years. And they’ve started…
Too often things get taken too far. You can see this in so many different circumstances.
Often it is far better to enjoy the win and be content, then to seek more than you had originally wanted.
Here are some examples:
Having a few more snacks or cakes than you should. Eventually you’ve put on 3 stone.
Having a few too many drinks and waking up half way through the next day with a cracking hangover.
Putting a few little things on a credit card knowing you can’t pay off the balance. Then a few more. Soon you’re paying £1,000s in interest, yet lost interest in whatever you’re paying for.
Getting a club together to defend yourselves, like NATO, can sound like a good idea. Then after feeling quite secure, you keep adding more and more members. You feel more secure and confident but others may become more concerned and defensive.
There are many, many other examples from women’s rights (is equal enough?), unions (group v individual) and tech (how far is too far, like kissing a robot?), to buying shoes (Ms Marcos), and political coverups (it always starts small and then like a black hole, begins to engulf everything).
The key is to moderate and balance while checking the details frequently so matters don’t get out of control.
Review frequently and track progress. Don’t push things too far or you can do some damage (Like running further than you should). There is always pain after things are pushed too far. Better to stop things a little earlier than build up to a devastating situation.
