Why wait till life is hell and the situation is a disaster? Make some changes today and keep adjusting the sail until you’re back on course.
It’s not very rockstar to fix your life before you self-destruct. However, it does save lots of time, relationships, regret, finances and health consequences if you get on a track to being better from today.
Let yourself dream about who you are or could become. Imagine your life, body, relationships, finances, holidays, home and pass times exactly how you would dream to have them in the perfect world.
Let your fears and concerns of it not working out simply subside. Summon the feeling you would have if your dreams all turned out true forever. Now use that amazing feeling of relaxation, contentment and confidence to remind you every moment of every day how your life is becoming.
Believe you will get there. Then simply act accordingly.
If you see yourself as an athletic, fit and healthy person, do what one of those people would do. They would probably be disciplined with their food intake (types and amounts), their daily exercise, the amount of water they drink and how much sleep they schedule into their life.
You can be the opposite too. Just do what unathletic, unfit and unhealthy people do. You can achieve this too. Simply build habits and be disciplined around eating poor quality food, and just a little bit more than you should each time. Sit more and move less. Drink small amounts of water and have an erratic and poorly executed sleep regime. You can become as unfit and uninspired as you want to be. It’s success but in a different direction.
Do the above exercise with your money, your relationships and your career and notice how different your life could be in just six months. It would be a world of difference in one little year. And then it could be like that for the next 20 or 50 years of your life.
Gee, why wouldn’t you start working on this today? Right now! Your new amazing life awaits! It’s just one little mindset shift away. Start accepting this new amazing life in your mind every day. And act accordingly.
Sometimes life gets in the way of your plans. Assess, adjust, and act accordingly.
Some people will cheer when they hear news they like. They may think that they themselves, their team or group is winning. And winning feels good. We can feel confident, righteous, vindicated or correct.
However, sometimes the win happens without people realising the prize for winning.
Passing your army physical feels like a great win. Though now you’ve got to put your life on the line. Winning the promotion over others can feel wonderful. However, now you must work harder and for longer hours. Although there is more pay, you earn less on an hourly basis.
Winning sometimes means getting to do more exciting and beneficial stuff but it can also require more sacrifice.
If you draw the short straw, you win. But it is hardly ever the short straw that you want to win.
Injuries happen. Physical, emotional and even spiritual. Be sure to allow ample time to heal. Life is long enough so don’t short-change yourself on the healing process. Otherwise, you may not heal sufficiently and have to go thorough a very similar thing again.
Learn and apply your knowledge. Get to full strength before setting off again.
What would your Blue Plaque say? How would a biographer tell your story? What would you want on your Wikipedia page? Will your grandchildren retell your story?
Stop and think about your life. Where do you definitely want to go and what do you desperately want to do? What do you want to avoid for sure?
Then set your sail and focus on that direction and that destination.
It’s always best to think long term and where you want to end up. You’ll make different and better decisions. And your journey will align to your long term goals, not just the whims of the moment.
Actually, your best. Not your pretty good. Don’t give out mediocre. Give us the best you have and don’t leave any on the table. You’ll feel better knowing you did it.
Grab a pen and some paper. Start jotting down some key elements of your ideal life. What does your ideal house look like? What is your ideal car or cars? Would you be married? Describe the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual attributes of this person.
Where does your income come from? Describe the number and types of holidays you would like to take each year.
Now go get a plan in place to start making all these things happen within three to five years from this moment.
Go on! Dare to live the life of your dreams!
Are you actually looking for a solution, or do you just want to be right? Is it a solution to your perception of the problem or are you trying to remain relevant and comfortable within your group?
When you want your view to “win”, you may want to feed your ego and comfort, not actively find the ideal solution.
Shouldn’t we all be trying to solve for the optimal solution?
Remove your bias and stay focused on winning for the optimal good.
Focusing on negative aspects and the 2% of people that cause harm rather than the 98% that are neutral, or lift people up, is crazy.
There is no need to tear people down, call them names, or become hostile. They may have a different life philosophy to you, see things a bit differently to you based on their experiences in life or have a different political preference, but that is ok.
Live and let live. They have come by their views just as you have come by yours. For all but a few radical outliers, we can still get along despite our different perceptions.
And it’s a lot easier to get along if people haven’t called you names, shunned you or left you in fear for your health.
You don’t have to become a cheerleader, but please be decent in your discussions.
