Are you actually looking for a solution, or do you just want to be right? Is it a solution to your perception of the problem or are you trying to remain relevant and comfortable within your group?
When you want your view to “win”, you may want to feed your ego and comfort, not actively find the ideal solution.
Shouldn’t we all be trying to solve for the optimal solution?
Remove your bias and stay focused on winning for the optimal good.
Focusing on negative aspects and the 2% of people that cause harm rather than the 98% that are neutral, or lift people up, is crazy.
There is no need to tear people down, call them names, or become hostile. They may have a different life philosophy to you, see things a bit differently to you based on their experiences in life or have a different political preference, but that is ok.
Live and let live. They have come by their views just as you have come by yours. For all but a few radical outliers, we can still get along despite our different perceptions.
And it’s a lot easier to get along if people haven’t called you names, shunned you or left you in fear for your health.
You don’t have to become a cheerleader, but please be decent in your discussions.
Simple. Free. Appreciated.
Massively up your game in this area. Today.
You’ll feel better and so will all the lovely people you say nice things to. Win win.
It is essential that you complete tasks. It feels good. You confirm you deliver. And, you won’t have half finished projects lying around unfinished.
Sometimes you have to work late into the morning. This is the price of peace of mind and success.
If you should be doing something, then do it. If others remind you, thank them, and do it. Stop making their life miserable for helping and yours less wonderful for not doing what you need to do.
These both look the same. The results can lull you into a false sense of comfort and expectation.
Being a millionaire may have come from hard work as an employee or a business builder. But you could have also simply won the lottery. In both cases you can enjoy or show off your wealth. No one needs to know how you got it.
However, you’ll know how you got it. And one route is vastly more likely to have eventual success than the other.
So start off with hard work and if you get a lucky break along the way, enjoy it.
If you blame the government for your situation, you give them the power over your life. When you say your friend is to blame for your lack of success, you are acknowledging the significant influence they have on you.
When you take personal responsibility for where you are going, you give yourself the power to get there. Now get going!
Life has a lot to offer. But it’s mostly self serve. If you don’t see what you would like, simply ask. They may keep some items in the back for the special people who ask.
Many times you may see a chore, especially a repetitive one, and think, why bother. It can be easy to dismiss things. Yet, these can be important for structure in your day, health and cleanliness, benefit to others or even to give you purpose.
It can be easy to dismiss things like admin, cleaning or tidying. But they mount up and compound. Then you can get into even bigger trouble.
Learn to be tidier. It’s a skill you can gradually develop and is useful throughout your life.
Bother to do things. It builds discipline, self-esteem, confidence and even pride. Your life will be richer for it.
Adjust your mindset, even a wee bit.
