Your life is your perspective on the world. It doesn’t mean the world is like such and such. It simply means you chose to view the world as that.
If it was like that, then wouldn’t everyone see it that way too? People see it differently not because it is different but their perspective is.
Mostly people react to things. They can do this quickly based on feelings. Try to move from react to respond to thoughtful engagement.
Try to notice bias and see if it makes a difference once you shift from feelings based to critical thinking based considerations.
Check in with your friends. Somedays it’s nice just to have a friend ask how you are. People can be up as well as down. Life can be hard and we rarely know the whole story. Lend an ear. Have patience. Listen. It may change their life.
If you commit and quit, your self esteem will drop. You can’t trust perself or count on yourself. Be realistic. Only commit to those things and timeframes you are actually going to do. Don’t let yourself and other people down.
Life can change in a second, minute, week, month, year or decade. If it were to change for the positive, how long would you like it to take? The quicker you would like the change to happen, the more action you need to take.
Good decisions also help to make things go faster. Timely decisions too. Don’t fall behind and get dragged along by old opportunities. Stay fresh, alert and ready.
People are tribal. And we switch tribes based on the theme, topic or philosophy being discussed. If your favourite pastime is films, then you’re in this group. But if you’re vegetarian, you’re in this group. However, if you like to carry a firearm, then you’re in another group.
People like to choose their group based on their preferences. Being forced into a group is rarely ideal. For this reason, perpetrators of forced belonging are rarely perceived well in history. I’m sure you can think of several examples with ease.
If you’re trying to force anyone into a group, I’d stop now. You’re going to be on the wrong side of it sooner than later.
Something else springs up unexpectedly. It makes life more exciting, or stressful, depending on the thing and your personal philosophy.
Either way, just get it done as best you can and move on.
Few people I know, enjoy doing admin. Though it needs to get done. So try doing it a little and at a time but often or once a week for three hours in the morning when you’re fresh. Then give yourself something fun to do in the afternoon if you complete it.
Being away can be helpful in recognising the people and things you appreciate. You don’t need to go away for this to happen though. You can make the effort to find things you appreciate everyday.
It isn’t easy but it’s often worthwhile.
