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Pursuing Perfection At What Cost?

If something is moving along reasonably well, tinkering around with it can make things worse as much as they can make things better.

Progress pushed too far can turn into regress. This can be seen particularly well in social settings. If you try to manufacture the world how you would like to have it run, there may be negative consequences beyond a certain point.

This may be some of the reason why we see political parties in power for four to eight years before they are voted out for the opposing group for a similar amount of time.

You can move a patient and accommodating person quite some way along towards your desired endgame. However, just as you gain confidence that you’ll be able to shift them to the end, they may reach a resistance point. And all the progress you thought you made, might start to unwind.

You may find yourself back where you started. Or, perhaps the momentum will take you back past the starting point to places you wished you’d never disturbed.

So sometimes you may be better off with some good progress and leaving it there. In pursuing perfection, you may pay a much higher cost than you could have imagined.

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Schedule

Schedule your day. Try to be accurate with the time allocated to each item. Leave two half hour slots open in the late morning and mid afternoon to deal with unexpected items or the inevitable meeting drift.

Try to create the schedule and build the discipline to stick with it. Keep practicing daily. This one skill will do more for your success than any other.

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Best Of Lists

I usually find these lists quite exciting and interesting. Someone has gone out and done all the research for you and they’ve provided a ranking and review to make your large choice much easier.

The one that struck me today was a list for the best salt & vinegar chips in the UK. It’s very easy to think the top ranked crisps are ‘the best’. Yet, they are only the best for that one person providing the ranking and reviews.

Their top choice might be light on the salt yet heavy on the vinegar with a significant apple flavoured element. That may not be how you like your crisps. And they may prefer ruffles to baked or thick cut not wafer thin.

There are often lots of other elements than just what is reviewed but regardless, make sure you’re clear on all the reasons and details that went into the list-makers decision. It’s nice to have a list but not so much when it’s opposite to how you would have ranked them.

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Stay Aware

As tensions increase and the likelihood of violent encounters grows, remain vigilant and keep your eyes and wits about you. Some people value life and liberty far less than you do and are willing to risk everything to get their own way.

In a twisted irony, you may find yourself fighting for peace.

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Naming Your Child

Why did you choose the name you did for your child? Since you didn’t choose all the other names available, are you a bad person?

Humans select for preference. That means the non-selected options could be viewed as non-selected, second place or rejected. Or the name chosen could be viewed as being preferential. What’s interesting is that people prefer names for a wide variety of reasons. The name could be selected because of a father, grandmother, favourite aunt, old friend, famous actor, old boyfriend, a movie character or an ice cream flavour, to name a few influences.

When only one option can go forward, out of two options, it would be easy and very simple to deduce that the second was rejected, which feels worse than non-selected.

Selection is tricky as it often depends on so many factors. Rarely is one factor the 100% reason for something.there are often several reasons for any decision, though lots of studies and discussions want to boil it down to one.

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Little Sacrifices

What may be a little sacrifice to you, may mean the whole world to someone else. Giving up your comfort for someone else can be a real challenge. But once you do, you grow as a person. You realise what you can do without and how you can persevere. A lot of good can come from just one giving action.

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Leave Them Wanting More

Leave at the height of the party. Disappear at the top of your game. Keep them curious. Leave them wanting more. This strategy can buy you more time in life and be quite a good way to keep people looking forward to seeing you the next time.

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Make Some Me Time

Carve out a little corner of your day to get some me time just for you. Maybe you need a whole day away or even an overnight stay. Whatever it is you need to get some space and time, you should book it in. Sometimes it seems like the wrong time but more often than not, you’ll be glad you did it!

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What Are Lies?

Remember, to lie you have to know the correct answer, believe it is correct and then say something else.

Just because someone has a different opinion to you, does not mean they are lying. They just see it differently.

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Reduce Your Projects

Focus on 1 or 2 things at a time. Discipline yourself to say no to new things if they do not absolutely move your goals forward. Time is at a premium. Don’t waste it on anything that doesn’t improve your life through joy or wealth.

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