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Mutual Understanding

It’s nice to have a mutual understanding. Fewer words are needed. There is less thinking work required. It’s easy and more pleasant. But you won’t grow if you don’t allow your thoughts to be challenged.

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Have Fun Sensibly

Have a great time. Enjoy! Park, dance, sing, play and entertain yourself. Just do it sensibly. No doctors or police. And try to make it something you could happily tell your grandmother and your own 10 year old children.

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If You Do The Same, You Get The Same

Think of the next 12 months ahead. How closely will it resemble the last 12 months? Will you eat similar foods, sleep at similar times, work about the same hours on very similar type things? I will guess that you’ll also celebrate the same birthdays, holidays and special moments.

If everything you do is the same, how can you expect life to be or feel differently? You really need to make some small changes or shifts in what you do. Then increase the frequency and/or intensity of these changes so you begin to get demonstrably different results.

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Remember The Past

It is definitely worthwhile to remember the past if it uplifts you. If it does not, recall it less and less as time goes by. Remove any environmental cues that may activate the memory. You become what you focus on so it’s best to recall good or informative times more frequently than purely painful ones.

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Having A Different Opinion

It doesn’t make you right or wrong. And it doesn’t make you better or worse. Generally it means you interpret something differently than someone else. Which is normal and fine.

You may have noticed a movement or word that your angle, position, experience or education may have enhanced for you. Then you may have filtered that through different thoughts, values and ideas you have from your limited experience and knowledge of the entire known universe.

This can bring you to a slightly different conclusion compared to someone else or even to create a polar opposite opinion.

In addition, you may simply be trying to create a particular position so only select data relevant to your desired opinion.

Rather than be cross, anxious or bewildered by another person’s opinion, try to enjoy watching it unfold. Watch people make up their mind about their opinion, or simply parrot someone else’s (that is socially acceptable among their peer group), and then find the data to justify it or just badger you with their opinion without balanced material. Fascinating.

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Why Be Difficult?

It’s so easy to be harmonious. Work with people when they communicate with you. Trying to make things more difficult with tone, facial expressions and unnecessary commentary or poor volume is not ideal nor is it helpful.

Make the effort. Build good communication skills. This doesn’t mean be a pushover. Still have boundaries. Maintain your position if it’s right for you. Just do so in a way so as to not antagonise other people.

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