Stop guessing. Stop believing what you hear or read. Question it. Get the facts. Get details. Look at it from the opposing view. Understand motivations.
Use the internet to find actual data. Don’t just look at studies. If you do, look at who paid for them. Then see what facts the opposing view use. Facts. Not opinions. Not shouting. No, not even name calling. If people have facts, they will not need to raise their voice, nor call you names or change the subject.
If people are curious to find the truth, they will join you to try to use facts to find it. If they simply want to thrust their narrative onto you, they will not want to look up data, statistics and facts.
Don’t waste your time with ignorant folks. Spend it with people trying to make things better. It’s more fun and more rewarding.