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Change Yourself First

Posted on September 29, 2021

Then you can change the world. If we all tried to be better people individually, we would be better as a group through natural consequence.

If you’re trying to change someone, you’re unlikely to do it. Only the subject person will make the change happen. Berating someone or belittling them won’t do it. It often has the opposite effect. You can lead a horse to water…. Even make it look nice and dress it up. But you can’t force someone, or a horse, to take a sip.

Change yourself first. And if you have time left on the clock, then help others. Rather than force them.

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Use Affirmations Frequently

Posted on September 27, 2021

Yes you might feel uncomfortable doing this. You might even cringe a little just thinking about it. But really, you probably do negative affirmations all the time. You might say, ‘I am so stupid’, ‘I am an idiot’ or even ‘I am terrible with money’.

Think about that. You are willing to say pretty rough stuff to yourself but cringe when thinking about saying something nice. And the nice stuff is probably more accurate on the whole too!

Try saying, ‘I am a very good person’ or ‘I am pretty fit’ or even, ‘I am quite good with several financial aspects’.

Those aren’t so cringeworthy. They are simply stating how it is, fairly accurately.

So think of 5-10 ‘I am’ phrases you’re comfortable saying and start saying them to yourself every 30 minutes. Brainwash yourself. Love bomb yourself. And don’t just say them. Feel them when you say them. Stand straight and tall. Smile. Be proud of who you are in the moment.

After a few weeks of half-hourly affirmations, you’ll have convinced yourself about how good you really are. Then you are on your way to being Unstoppable. You will be able to achieve anything.

Use affirmations frequently.

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You Win just Trying

Posted on September 25, 2021

Trying, practicing and training all require effort. It is these efforts that turn you into a winner; a person who wins. You won’t always have a bestseller, blockbuster or championship trophy but you will have developed the discipline, focus and confidence to try it again.

You win as a person each time you put effort in and try. Love the process.

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Be Attractive

Posted on September 21, 2021

Attract friends, money, jobs, opportunities and partners. There is less need to pursue if you have the higher ability to attract.

In order to attract, one needs to be attractive. Have a shining, delightful personality. Be gracious and determined. Be your best in both mind and body. Demonstrate you can take care of your things so others will trust you with theirs. Their body, mind, heart and soul.

If we are a great steward of money and efficient with our time, it will attract more money and opportunities.

Be respectful, accountable and empathetic.

If we can be attractive, we will attract. Work on it.

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Punctuality Is Good

Posted on September 20, 2021

Respecting your time and the time of others is a good attribute to have. When you are late, it signals to the other person that you do not respect their time. Most people are not that pleased with this signal. Although a few people will be happy when you are running late. This is especially true when they are running late themselves.

Showing up early demonstrates you are in control of your time. It allows you time to park, register or prepare. It also signals that you are mature and respectful of the time of others.

This characteristic can buy a lot of goodwill. It is a good one to have. Certainly it is one to work on if you are not demonstrating it consistently.

No need to make a reason or excuse. The evidence is there. Best not to make it a habit. Exceptional circumstances only, outside of your control, is a good rule to live by. Communicate the timing expectations as soon as adversity is encountered. This can also ease the tension at the other end.

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Avoid Or Attack The Day

Posted on September 19, 2021

Are you pulling the duvet over your head most days? Too often and you may consider that you are avoiding the day. If so, ask yourself why. There is often a simple reason. Sometimes it’s a conversation that’s needed that will be uncomfortable. Other times it could be a project that requires a tough decision or elements you don’t enjoy doing.

Regardless, see if you can flip the ‘avoid’ into ‘attack’. Identify the element that is keeping you under the duvet and launch into the day deciding you will confront that element and resolve it today.

Make a plan with some specific times and parameters. You will get up at x time. You will work on this specific issue from y to z time. Then you can put it behind you. That is how you shift from Uncomfortable to Unstoppable.

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Listen

Posted on September 17, 2021

Listen without thinking with your lens or bias switched on. Listen to the words selected and the order they are used. Try to really understand their intent, not your programming. It is quite difficult so you will likely need quite a bit of practice. So get on that. Practice listening.

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Make Changes

Posted on September 13, 2021

Shake things up a bit. Adjust your sleep habits, tv and social media habits or even how much ‘news’ you read or watch. You can stop filling your fridge and cupboard with foods that do you no good. Get those things out of your environment. Less temptation or risk will help improve choices and results. You’re the adult. You buy the groceries. These changes start in the shops.

Go exercise this morning. Walk. Do 4 pushups. Start. Try. Experiment. Do a tiny shift. Or you can make big changes.

How soon do you want to see results? How long till you make the changes required? What age will you be when you finally make the changes you know you should have made 3 years ago?

Make changes. #letsgo!

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Talk It Out

Posted on September 12, 2021

When in doubt, talk it out. Go into discussions with positive intent. Seek first to understand as Mr Covey would say. Before you comment, listen carefully to their words. Try not to interpret them. Take them at face value. Then try clarifying meanings with questions.

It is not easy at first and can be bumpy even for professionals. But know that you are looking to resolve the issue, not be right. Being wrong or unaware is fine if the other person comes with empathy and compassion.

Most arguments aren’t created because those two people enjoy arguing. It is often a miscommunication or misunderstanding due to different reference points, beliefs, values or ideas.

Talk it out. You’ll feel much better for it.

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Get It Out

Posted on September 11, 2021

Write, speak or mutter, you need to work things through in your mind and get it out of your system. A problem shared is a problem halved is the old saying. But you don’t have to share it with a specific person. You can act like you’re sharing it when writing or speaking. However, you can put the paper in a drawer and never see it anymore. Or speak the words up into space, where no one ever could give chase.

You will feel unburdened. And that is the key. Vent, rant, seethe or simply dispose of your thoughts and you will feel lighter, happier and on the way to a better day already.

Otherwise you are keeping a poison in your system which impacts your mind and health and has little to no impact on any others. Although they may feel an edge or chill from you, it will not eat them up inside.

Just get it out by the end of the day. You will sleep better and be a better person to be around.