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Talk It Out

Posted on September 12, 2021

When in doubt, talk it out. Go into discussions with positive intent. Seek first to understand as Mr Covey would say. Before you comment, listen carefully to their words. Try not to interpret them. Take them at face value. Then try clarifying meanings with questions.

It is not easy at first and can be bumpy even for professionals. But know that you are looking to resolve the issue, not be right. Being wrong or unaware is fine if the other person comes with empathy and compassion.

Most arguments aren’t created because those two people enjoy arguing. It is often a miscommunication or misunderstanding due to different reference points, beliefs, values or ideas.

Talk it out. You’ll feel much better for it.

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Get It Out

Posted on September 11, 2021

Write, speak or mutter, you need to work things through in your mind and get it out of your system. A problem shared is a problem halved is the old saying. But you don’t have to share it with a specific person. You can act like you’re sharing it when writing or speaking. However, you can put the paper in a drawer and never see it anymore. Or speak the words up into space, where no one ever could give chase.

You will feel unburdened. And that is the key. Vent, rant, seethe or simply dispose of your thoughts and you will feel lighter, happier and on the way to a better day already.

Otherwise you are keeping a poison in your system which impacts your mind and health and has little to no impact on any others. Although they may feel an edge or chill from you, it will not eat them up inside.

Just get it out by the end of the day. You will sleep better and be a better person to be around.

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Start Fresh Daily

Posted on September 10, 2021

Leave the past in the past. It is history now. What’s done is done and can’t be undone. Understand what could be improved and work toward that. Focus on the ideal with good intent and good will come of it.

Start each new day with a clean slate. No score and no judgement. Begin again but with experience, knowledge, awareness and a desire to be better in all respects compared to the you of yesterday.

Leave your baggage behind. Write a letter or notes to get issues out of your head. Then file it away forever or destroy it. It need not come with you. Forgive others and yourself and forget that which makes you weak, sad, angry, frustrated or feel unloved.

Keep positive words, phrases and photos nearby all day and review them often. Keep your ideal in your mind’s eye.

Sure it’s a bit of work each day but it’s worth developing the habit. The activities will become a part of you and then you and those you greet will benefit from your joy and positive demeanour.

Think of things to make you smile and start fresh daily.

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Find A Way

Posted on September 9, 2021

If you really want something, you will find a way. If it is not as important to you, you’ll do something else. That is simply human nature. We are drawn toward or we avoid. You may even say we find something else to do, rather than we are avoiding something.

It is part of the procrastination process. If you keep putting something off, think about the thing a little bit. What do you like about it? Why is it supposed to be important? Is there a big impact if you do or don’t do it? Try to put your finger on why you are not doing something. It can be quite revealing, useful and powerful to assess what is going on.

Find a way. If you really want what that success will bring.

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Move With Pace

Posted on September 7, 2021

It’s fun to watch people from different places or with different mindsets as they move through their day. Some are speeding through, making rapid progress. Others are sauntering along like they’ll live to 200 with no ageing. Choose your pace but it dictates your race. Are you in the race to win? Move with pace.

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Calm Your Mind

Posted on September 2, 2021

There are stimulants and triggers everywhere. Do your best to calm your mind. If you think of life as a marathon and there is time to deal with it all, you will be more calm. Also, only be concerned with what you can actually change. If you cannot impact it, including the opinion of others, just let it go.

Calm your mind and enjoy the ride.

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Key Skills In Life

Posted on August 31, 2021

You need five key skills in life. That is all. Not 2,000 and not even 200. Nor are they difficult. But without these you will struggle.

Learn to work diligently and with pride.

Be appropriate with money. This includes spending less than you earn.

Be selective with your time. Enjoying time spent is one thing. However, wasting it, especially repeatedly, is an entirely different story.

Learn to be kind to others. This also includes being well mannered.

Finally, be grateful and appreciate all of the people and things that are in your life.

Yes, you could list more here. I could even break some of these down to be more specific. But generally, if you can manage to do these five things, within the broader context of your life, you will do well. By which I mean you will earn a decent living, be joyful, live with little stress and retire on your own means.

Work on these five key skills in life every day.

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Become Your Ideal Person

Posted on August 30, 2021

You know attributes that you like in others. When you notice something you’re not fond of in others, check if you ever do it too. If so, remember to shift a little. It’s rarely easy, but you have the choice to become your ideal person. Good luck!

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