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Shifting Momentum

Posted on October 19, 2021

Have you ever felt momentum? Maybe you’ve felt it while watching a tennis match or other major sporting event. It is incredible to watch. It is palpable.

You can see heads start to lower and energy and focus disappear. Frustration can set in and then mistakes are made. This compounds with growing negative self talk. It can be hard to come back from it.

On the other hand, the energy can grow while focus gets better. You are in the state of flow and each decision seems to be right. You float over the opposition. Your heads are high and your confidence is too.

Use shifting momentum to your advantage. Be sure to relax, have fun and commit to each moment. Keep the momentum on your side.

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What If It Worked Out?

Posted on October 18, 2021

What if you went for it and it surpassed all your expectations? What would that look like? How would it feel?

Too often we think of something we don’t want. Not a good start. Then some of us focus on what we do want. This is better. But even when focusing on what we do want, oftentimes we will see the downsides or negative outcomes more easily than the upsides and positives.

But what if it worked out? If we would focus on how amazing everything could turn out, maybe it would turn out that way.

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Always Make Peace Before Bed

Posted on October 12, 2021

Don’t go to bed angry. It will eat at you. You’re likely to get a bad night’s sleep. And what if by some weird quirk you never wake up? The other person’s last memory of you will be of an angry person. That might suit your angry feelings in this moment, but is it really how you want anyone to remember you?

As hard as it may be to swallow your pride, apologise and say a few kind words, it’s usually the better thing to do. It takes a lot of character and strength to be the first to start healing the wounds.

Life is short, so holding onto anger and resentment is not a great strategy. You’ll miss the joy and peace that could be yours. You could also help others find those faster.

Always make peace before bed. Your soul will thank you.

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It Could Be Worse

Posted on October 11, 2021

Yes, it’s not how you want things to be. However, it could be worse. Look at others around the world or even around your neighbourhood. There are probably several people that are having challenges in their life that you wouldn’t want. Many you wouldn’t even know about.

Just remember, things can get better with time and some effort. Nothing lasts forever, even cold November rain. (As GnR would put it).

I’m not saying your situation is easy or that I know anything about it. I am saying though that you should look at the positives, regardless of how insignificant they may seem. From that will grow strength and greatness. In time, wounds heal, thoughts improve, lives change.

What you think is or isn’t manageable or good, is simple a thought or perception. Perceive things differently. Flip those thoughts on their head. See the upside and be grateful for it.

It could be worse. Focus on those slivers of good.

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Follow Positive Traditions

Posted on October 10, 2021

Cultures have traditions. Follow them if they are beneficial. There is something simple and calming about traditions.

Try to understand why the creator of the tradition created it. Don’t just assume why they did it through your biased lense.

Follow positive traditions. They’re a great part of life.

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Who Sets Your Pace?

Posted on October 4, 2021

What tempo do you move at? Are you getting things done like a person possessed or are you chilling like there is all the time in the world?

Once again, this can be heavily influenced by the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are working with people who are action takers and getting things done quickly, you’ll probably start doing the same. If you are surrounded by people who sit on the park bench watching the world go by, you’ll probably find yourself there ever more frequently.

And if you think you have no further capacity to do more, you may be wrong. Consider Roger Bannister who came fourth in the Olympics in 1952 for the 1500 meters. Then, using top pacers in 1954, he became the first person to break the 4 minute mile at 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds.

Who sets your pace?

*(Thank you Ski for the topic in our Clubhouse room Monday)

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Consider The Data Presented

Posted on October 3, 2021

Always test the underlying information. Trust but verify is a useful phrase. Look at things from both sides or all angles. Take the emotion out of it. If you can find better context, use it. We will be better off. Consider the data presented.

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Change Yourself First

Posted on September 29, 2021

Then you can change the world. If we all tried to be better people individually, we would be better as a group through natural consequence.

If you’re trying to change someone, you’re unlikely to do it. Only the subject person will make the change happen. Berating someone or belittling them won’t do it. It often has the opposite effect. You can lead a horse to water…. Even make it look nice and dress it up. But you can’t force someone, or a horse, to take a sip.

Change yourself first. And if you have time left on the clock, then help others. Rather than force them.

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