Sometimes you’ll be absorbed in your thoughts. Other times you just won’t feel connected to those around you. Of course you may simply be exhausted and uninterested in engaging.
Regardless, if the feeling isn’t there and the timing isn’t right, you can simply retire to your room, home, office, whatever.
Don’t force it. You don’t need to be on every second of every day.
It can be tough but try it.
Step into the shoes of someone with the opposite viewpoint to you and try to argue their perspective. Understand why they have that view and what they are trying to get from it.
Do try to recognise the bias you have and try to remove it from your thoughts.
Life gets a lot easier if you are looking for common ground.
Oh, and if you don’t feel the need to blame anyone.
When you are clear about what you want, being presented with many choices is irrelevant. Stick with your focus.
Be grateful for a good life. Many are not so fortunate.
And if you feel you’ve had a great life, even more reason to be grateful.
How you interpret things is how you see them. It is how you experience them. You react based on your learning and life experience. If you consider other options, it will help you respond.
The thing may not be what you interpret. It will be what it is, without your interpretation. Be mindful of this difference.
How to know and what to do? Pause. Consider how other people that are different to you might experience the same thing. Their way may not be better than your way, but it’s good to consider what they got from it.
Begin with the end in mind. Dream about the ideal life you’d like to live and when you’d like to start living it. Then start to research how you could make it a reality.
Get information. Book meetings, hotels and cabs. Write out the micro steps you’ll need to get you there.
It’s very fun and exciting to think that, if you keep it front of mind, one day you will get there!
On your own, with your spouse, with friends or with kids, get out there and enjoy a night out.
Pay attention or pay the price. If you’re not tracking the key things in your life, they can easily, and quickly, go off track.
If you’re not paying attention to your fitness, you’ll spend more money on a new wardrobe, PT’s and diet/fitness books than you would have on a gym membership.
Keep your relationship in focus or the cost of divorce will be far more than a few date nights and a weekend escape or two.
Pay attention to your finances too. Make sure your income is correct and your outgoings too. A slip or two in a month could spell disaster in a few years or a fabulous retirement if caught early.
It pays to pay attention.
