I find most arguments occur because the people involved are looking at different details including timing. We can get a lot more done if we listen to the details and understand why those ones are so important to the other person.
Most issues are caused by lack of attention to the fine details. Precision is important with respect to timing, location, topic, attendees, etc.
Generalising can seem quicker but it usually just gets people frustrated. Get down into the details.
It’s good to find common ground when you are speaking with others. That’s why we look for common relationships, geographies, schools and other meaningful connections.
Keep them in mind. It’s a great thing to do.
Whether you’re driving to work, heading on holiday, or preparing for exams or presentations, always allow extra time.
You’ll feel more confident. And it will allow for unexpected things to happen and keep your plans intact.
There are so many opportunities in this world. And if you have a phone and access to the internet, you are on your way.
You can learn anything, become skilled in anything and achieve anything.
You can connect with anyone more easily than ever before. You can build businesses with that phone. No huge capital requirement either.
If you’re mildly interested in becoming successful, there has never been a better time for you to try. Give people what they want or need and the world is your oyster.
It could be a holiday, work assignment, kid’s project, DIY work on your home, a contract role or a celebration. You may be feeling uncomfortable and can’t wait for it to end. But, when it is over, you’ll miss it.
You’ll miss the energy, comraderie, purpose, teamwork and excitement. The buzz and deadlines will be longed for too.
So savour every minute. For this too shall pass.
Often people go with their first thought or feeling on things.
First or worst thought.
They react. They don’t think or consider. No six chairs thinking for them. Their first instinct of fear, concern, flight and fight are overwhelming. Monkey brain takes over.
Pause for a moment. Consider a few other options. Has the opposing view ever happened to you or in some instances you are aware of? Then relax. As it probably has.
At least get to 2nd Step thinking. Show you have some ability to assess things rationally. You can still prefer your outcome. But remember, others have their personal reasons for wanting their outcomes. It doesn’t mean one is more right or wrong in the universe. So don’t act like it.
Good luck! ?
Think about when you feel like the Energiser bunny. When does that happen? Are you dancing? Playing a sport? Speaking? Painting? Working on a deal? Attending a concert?
List out on paper when you get most energised. Then start steering your life to spending more time in those situations.
Unfortunately, so is losing.
Remember that the five people you spend your most time with, heavily impact what your life looks like.
Make sure you are hanging around positive people with skills equal to, better than, or complimentary to, your skills. Make sure their attitude is worth catching also.
Make sure you hang out more with people that are winning. It will change your life.
Phone, Dashcam or doorbell camera footage are what our local police ask for to help resolve situations in our community.
30 years ago, none of these were an option. They were not even an idea.
Now they are quite common place. Hopefully they encourage people to be better citizens, take their time and be patient with others.
Go look at the source material. Do not allow someone else to give their opinion as fact. As tempting as it might be to accept that version of events, it’s not a good idea.
Sure it would be quicker. But it won’t be as accurate or informative.
Go to the source first.
