Declutter. File key documents clearly. Keep great files. Have backup docs. Tell someone. Be prepared. Do it in November. Even if it means a few late nights and a couple of weekends. Get your house in order.
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Category: Time
Moments Are Powerful
We remember moments. The good ones and less good ones. These powerful, emotional moments will have a great impact on our lives. These moments can lock in how we feel about someone for years or decades. Something said or done can really hit you in a few seconds.
Accidents, crimes, criticism, awards, compliments and victories have very strong moments attached to them. They are felt and they are memorable. They can be found in your memory bank without much effort. Though some need some real digging if you buried them deep.
Find these and extinguish their negative effect or use the positive ones to create great energy. Moments are powerful. Learn from them.
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Always Make Peace Before Bed
Don’t go to bed angry. It will eat at you. You’re likely to get a bad night’s sleep. And what if by some weird quirk you never wake up? The other person’s last memory of you will be of an angry person. That might suit your angry feelings in this moment, but is it really how you want anyone to remember you?
As hard as it may be to swallow your pride, apologise and say a few kind words, it’s usually the better thing to do. It takes a lot of character and strength to be the first to start healing the wounds.
Life is short, so holding onto anger and resentment is not a great strategy. You’ll miss the joy and peace that could be yours. You could also help others find those faster.
Always make peace before bed. Your soul will thank you.
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It Could Be Worse
Yes, it’s not how you want things to be. However, it could be worse. Look at others around the world or even around your neighbourhood. There are probably several people that are having challenges in their life that you wouldn’t want. Many you wouldn’t even know about.
Just remember, things can get better with time and some effort. Nothing lasts forever, even cold November rain. (As GnR would put it).
I’m not saying your situation is easy or that I know anything about it. I am saying though that you should look at the positives, regardless of how insignificant they may seem. From that will grow strength and greatness. In time, wounds heal, thoughts improve, lives change.
What you think is or isn’t manageable or good, is simple a thought or perception. Perceive things differently. Flip those thoughts on their head. See the upside and be grateful for it.
It could be worse. Focus on those slivers of good.
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Stay On Top Of Things
Keep your calendar up to date. When you get a new item with a date or time, put it in there. Do it even if you have to put TBC. Write your thoughts and to-dos down too. Think in terms of rolling weeks. Be mindful of the week ahead. Also be mindful of two, three and four weeks ahead.
Keep your files up to date. Know where things are. Tidy up your drawers and eliminate all unnecessary or unknown items. Keep lean. Give things a home in your house and make sure you put things back straight away. There’s not enough extra time in life to spend hours looking for things.
Stay on top of things. You’ll be happier for it. And there will be more calm and confidence in your future.
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Walk And Talk For Fun
It’s a nice way to spend some time. You get exercise and a chat. Excellent!
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Who Sets Your Pace?
What tempo do you move at? Are you getting things done like a person possessed or are you chilling like there is all the time in the world?
Once again, this can be heavily influenced by the 5 people you spend the most time with. If you are working with people who are action takers and getting things done quickly, you’ll probably start doing the same. If you are surrounded by people who sit on the park bench watching the world go by, you’ll probably find yourself there ever more frequently.
And if you think you have no further capacity to do more, you may be wrong. Consider Roger Bannister who came fourth in the Olympics in 1952 for the 1500 meters. Then, using top pacers in 1954, he became the first person to break the 4 minute mile at 3 minutes and 59.4 seconds.
Who sets your pace?
*(Thank you Ski for the topic in our Clubhouse room Monday)
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Seeing Old Friends
It’s always lovely to see old friends. You have a shared past which can bind you in many ways. It’s nice to talk about times you’ve shared, changes and new adventures.
Even though a lot of time may have passed, you can catch up on key points quite easily. You know the key characters and events from before. Now you get an insight into what’s happened since.
It’s amazing how quick we can catch each other up on the truly important matters in our life. We can summarise years of activity into 15-30 minutes. Obviously more things happened and their impact was felt. But we can share the highlights, especially the positive or humorous.
Seeing old friends is definitely worth taking the time to do. Cherish those moments. They are your history in the making.
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Punctuality Is Good
Respecting your time and the time of others is a good attribute to have. When you are late, it signals to the other person that you do not respect their time. Most people are not that pleased with this signal. Although a few people will be happy when you are running late. This is especially true when they are running late themselves.
Showing up early demonstrates you are in control of your time. It allows you time to park, register or prepare. It also signals that you are mature and respectful of the time of others.
This characteristic can buy a lot of goodwill. It is a good one to have. Certainly it is one to work on if you are not demonstrating it consistently.
No need to make a reason or excuse. The evidence is there. Best not to make it a habit. Exceptional circumstances only, outside of your control, is a good rule to live by. Communicate the timing expectations as soon as adversity is encountered. This can also ease the tension at the other end.
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