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When Do You Quit?

Posted on September 23, 2023

My son asked me tonight, when is it time to quit something? This could be school, a job, a relationship, a bad habit or a sport, club or activity.

It’s a tough question with no perfect answer. Each case will depend on the people and factors involved.

Steve Jobs made a good point that if you aren’t enjoying something for a long time or too many days in a row, it’s probably time to mix things up or at least assess what is going on.

I use this benchmark: Am I prepared to say this is as good as it gets in this area for me. I’ll probably never soar higher than this right now. Am I really ok with that? Or shall I press on a little longer?

If you are going to err on one side or the other, I’d say stick with something longer, even if you’re unsure. You may regain the joy or find your enthusiasm again!

It’s a personal decision. Good luck.

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Irrational Fears

Posted on September 20, 2023

Is being afraid of flying an irrational fear? It feels very real, and even terrifying, for some people. Even though statistically you have a greater chance of being injured or dying while on the ground, if you focus on that one crash you heard of, and assume you’ll suffer the same fate, you can work yourself up into a frenzy.

Alternatively, if you start to focus on the statistical probabilities of a successful flight, and visualise that success, even through some turbulence and some bumps on touchdown, you can overcome your mental fear.

Relaxing and deep breathing can help. Visualisation is great. Positive reinforcement is very helpful too. With time and effort you can train your mind to overcome anything.

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Develop Good Habits

Posted on September 19, 2023

You may have to start with one. And get really good at it. Then move on to another and build that into your day. It can take some time. Stick with it. It will be worth it over the years.

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Triangulate To The Truth

Posted on September 18, 2023

You need different perspectives to assess what could have happened. Why would a court call several witnesses to the stand? Because each one may have seen things slightly differently.

The totality of what they witnessed gives a much better picture than just the one observation point. Remember this the next time you go and judge someone based only on your views or that of only one other.

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Discredit

Posted on September 17, 2023

The number one weapon of people with no viable argument is to discredit someone. They are unable to address the precise issue head on and stick to that. They aim to discredit the person to win the argument rather than use sound facts or relevant information. This is usually because they don’t have a strong, or any, case.

If this happens, remind the person to remain on topic. You can also remind them that you’d prefer that they not engage in personal attacks or make this personal. If they continue, discontinue the conversation as clearly they are less interested in discussing the point or feel they have lost the argument so they try to drag you down in some form.

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Rebellion

Posted on September 15, 2023

Youthful exuberance is how it might be noted. Doing things one’s own way is a time tested desire. It can have some good outcomes from it and sometimes it goes too far and doesn’t work out for anyone.

Rebellions can be very good, depending on what the cause is.

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Get Your Costs Down

Posted on September 14, 2023

If you would like more calm in your life, then get your costs down. Most of what you buy could be foregone or purchased with a cheaper alternative.

This goes for clothes especially but also works for food, travel and entertainment.

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