First, ensure you have several options to consider. Then consider the pros and cons of each. You can then go on to compare each against the other. Finally you will weigh up your options and make a decision. Then implement the decision you made.
Late Nights With Friends
Enjoy!!!
Just My Opinion
How nice it might be if everyone had to say this before they spoke. Or we could use technology to have a sign flash above people’s heads as they spoke.
It’s almost funny how often some people confuse their opinion with fact. Or they think saying ‘my truth’ is very different from saying ‘my opinion’.
If you start your sentence with, ‘The fact of the matter is’, or something similar, it doesn’t make it a fact if it is your opinion.
And please don’t get me started on mis-information and other nonsense words or phrases. If you think someone got some information wrong, say so. But unless you back it up with the correct information, and that 90% of the planet would agree is a fact (not just your tribe or 52% of people), then it is just your opinion.
Remember The Past
It is definitely worthwhile to remember the past if it uplifts you. If it does not, recall it less and less as time goes by. Remove any environmental cues that may activate the memory. You become what you focus on so it’s best to recall good or informative times more frequently than purely painful ones.
Go With Your Gut
Despite all the data, sometimes you need to go with your gut.
Having A Different Opinion
It doesn’t make you right or wrong. And it doesn’t make you better or worse. Generally it means you interpret something differently than someone else. Which is normal and fine.
You may have noticed a movement or word that your angle, position, experience or education may have enhanced for you. Then you may have filtered that through different thoughts, values and ideas you have from your limited experience and knowledge of the entire known universe.
This can bring you to a slightly different conclusion compared to someone else or even to create a polar opposite opinion.
In addition, you may simply be trying to create a particular position so only select data relevant to your desired opinion.
Rather than be cross, anxious or bewildered by another person’s opinion, try to enjoy watching it unfold. Watch people make up their mind about their opinion, or simply parrot someone else’s (that is socially acceptable among their peer group), and then find the data to justify it or just badger you with their opinion without balanced material. Fascinating.
Why Be Difficult?
It’s so easy to be harmonious. Work with people when they communicate with you. Trying to make things more difficult with tone, facial expressions and unnecessary commentary or poor volume is not ideal nor is it helpful.
Make the effort. Build good communication skills. This doesn’t mean be a pushover. Still have boundaries. Maintain your position if it’s right for you. Just do so in a way so as to not antagonise other people.
Sleep On Planes
Great place to get a little shut eye. Use it to your advantage whenever you can. The plane is not a cinema, restaurant or gaming den so ignore those distractions. Get some sleep. Thank me later.
Set A Fun Goal
Achieve it today. Enjoy!
Distractions
Some are good and some are bad. Some can be helpful to have and others are less so. As per usual, it depends.