Why wait till life is hell and the situation is a disaster? Make some changes today and keep adjusting the sail until you’re back on course.
It’s not very rockstar to fix your life before you self-destruct. However, it does save lots of time, relationships, regret, finances and health consequences if you get on a track to being better from today.
Where do I want to be in ten years? Write down 3 versions of your future. Maybe you’ll be retired. Perhaps you are working in your dream area. The other option could involve moving home or country.
What would my ideal life look like? University? Married? Kids? High income job? High status job? Great investments? Retire your parents? Where do I live? What do I do? How many holidays each year? For how long? Where? Doing what?
Am I willing to sacrifice pleasure today for a better tomorrow? Most people aren’t.
Do I need to work on my discipline? Are there some messes I need to tidy up (physical, environmental, mental, emotional, spiritual)? Get one sorted at a time. Start today.
Tough questions will move you forward faster than anything in life. Can you handle the truth?
A good movie transports you, takes you along with it, entertains and distracts. Just watched the latest Guy Ritchie film. Very enjoyable.
If you’re struggling to change a habit, consider how you are training your mind to be different. The easiest way to train your mind is to believe it’s true. Visualise.
Then just repeat that exhaustively. And also find out what people like that do and think. Then do that!
Let yourself dream about who you are or could become. Imagine your life, body, relationships, finances, holidays, home and pass times exactly how you would dream to have them in the perfect world.
Let your fears and concerns of it not working out simply subside. Summon the feeling you would have if your dreams all turned out true forever. Now use that amazing feeling of relaxation, contentment and confidence to remind you every moment of every day how your life is becoming.
Believe you will get there. Then simply act accordingly.
If you see yourself as an athletic, fit and healthy person, do what one of those people would do. They would probably be disciplined with their food intake (types and amounts), their daily exercise, the amount of water they drink and how much sleep they schedule into their life.
You can be the opposite too. Just do what unathletic, unfit and unhealthy people do. You can achieve this too. Simply build habits and be disciplined around eating poor quality food, and just a little bit more than you should each time. Sit more and move less. Drink small amounts of water and have an erratic and poorly executed sleep regime. You can become as unfit and uninspired as you want to be. It’s success but in a different direction.
Do the above exercise with your money, your relationships and your career and notice how different your life could be in just six months. It would be a world of difference in one little year. And then it could be like that for the next 20 or 50 years of your life.
Gee, why wouldn’t you start working on this today? Right now! Your new amazing life awaits! It’s just one little mindset shift away. Start accepting this new amazing life in your mind every day. And act accordingly.
It really does help. If nothing else, it makes the whole experience and journey better. Even a not very pleasant one.
Sometimes life gets in the way of your plans. Assess, adjust, and act accordingly.
Is it possible to feel someone’s position so fully, to step into it, that you take on the physical characteristics of the person, like a chameleon does?
Not only do you step into their shoes and feel what they are experiencing, but your body transforms and matches that persons symptoms and attributes.
Some babies and mothers can have this, while some women develop a synchronicity with friends or close coworkers. Teammates can be in a state of flow or in sync with one another.
So could a person develop illnesses, in sympathy with a close relationship? Would this be to either minimise the suffering (take some on board/reduce the original) or experience it for greater understanding? And can it be controlled? Can it be stopped before permanent damage is done.
Let me know in the comments, if this has ever happened to you.
You can plan a great holiday, or not. You could just go where the wind takes you. It could be lavish or frugal. You may never make the time to plan it out as you would like.
But the more you plan the key elements, the more you will enjoy it.
And I’m not sure you will feel differently as you know the holiday is soon coming to an end. You may try to cram it all in in the final days or just let it unfold as it comes. It’s your personal choice. Enjoy it throughout, either way.
Your highest desire is changeable at any moment. Although it can go a long time being the same, it can change rapidly, and numerous times, depending on the situation.
It could be world peace usually. But it could quickly change to simply getting off of an amusement ride without being ill.
Sometimes it will change from wanting to learn or get along with others to wanting to win in a discussion. Be mindful of this often changing value. It guides you and acts as a filter to how you see the world and how you behave.
