Why would you be anything else?
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Pay Attention
Focus on the now. Mind your distractions
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Let People Know What You Are Looking For
Be open and honest and let people know what you would like. That saves them from trying to guess. The more specific you can be, the more likely someone will know whether they can help or not. And even if they say they can’t help you, that is still a win. At least you know they are off your list for this. That way you can focus on the other people who may be able to help you.
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Rage Against Your Demons
Many people have told how childhood comments about the unlikelihood of their success, ultimately helped propel them to success.
Remember the teacher that said you’ll end up in jail or the friends that said you’ll never make it. Even your parents can influence your decisions by the comments they make. Such things as, “Oh David doesn’t like to play the piano”, or, “Darla just isn’t that sporty”, can shape a child’s view of their options whether you thought it did or not.
Some give up at this point but others see it as their mission to prove those naysayers wrong. The, “I’ll show them” attitude comes out and may be out forever now.
But once you see some success, you can invest in some self awareness and make this raging a part of your past, or part of your early days. Now is the time to want the outcome because that’s your dream, not because someone else fired you up
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New School
Starting fresh can be filled with excitement, concern, uncertainty and delight. When you start at a new school, it can feel pretty full on.
There are all the new ideas to hear and assess, new rooms to explore, teachers to get to know and friendships to develop, and these all take energy and time. Though it’s well invested time.
Throw yourself wholeheartedly into the new situation and run with it. It may be a little uncomfortable at first, but soon you will be feeling confident and well into they flow. Some might even say unstoppable.
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The Jump In Thinking
Media, influencers, politicians and even your friends and family use the jump in thinking to bring you to a conclusion of their choice.
They’ll state something most people can broadly agree with so you’re nodding your head in agreement. Then they add in words like, “that means”, “what will happen next is” or “obviously…”, to name a few.
They then jump to their point and how they think, or want you to think, things will play out next. If they say it with confidence and certainty, you are more likely to make the jump with them and adopt their point of view.
Harmless enough over minor things like who the best drummer in the world is but less so when discussing more impactful issues.
Some people are very good at bringing you along with them without you stopping to think. However, with all “this then that” commentary and any future guessing, you certainly should stop and think about the statement. Ask questions like, “Is that the only possible outcome?”, “Has this person been right on all of their other guesses about how the future will unfold or why a person is like that?” or, “has this happened frequently or rarely in history?”.
It’s easy to simply go with the thought on offer. However, once you let others influence how you think, they have more control over your life than you’d imagine. If you think the Russian media might be overly biased or misleading in their coverage, have you considered that the media you consume could be similar?
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Finding Purpose
You need to search for it within. Do some soul searching. Have some tough conversations with yourself. Then act on it. Slow or fast but get going in that direction. It will become more clear as you bounce along that route.
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School Sports Days
If your child is having a school sports day, do what you can do to go. And when you are there, cheer on your child. Only positive vibes, praise and encouragement though.
Cheer on their friends too, even if they are on other teams. This isn’t the Olympics and all kids should have some cheering. For most people, it’s not often in life when people openly cheer for you.
Remind your children to thank the teachers, helpers, organisers, refs, coaches, timers, medic, etc. These people all helped to make this great day happen. You could go say a few thank you’s too. Nothing like good role modelling and a display of gratitude to people who deserve it (and probably greatly appreciate the acknowledgment).
Remember good sportsmanship and respect. Have a lot of fun. Watch your children, especially in every event possible. Encourage them and praise them often.
Help any children that aren’t feeling well or seem a little down. Check in on them and help them find their smile. Especially children for whom their parents or carers were unable to attend. Learn their names and then shout their name, support and encourage them and make them feel special and a part of the day.
Despite the protesting from your child or others that they do not want you to cheer, be embarrassing or shout their name, there is a little piece in side of them that is delighted that someone has noticed them.
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Be More Accurate, Especially In Grouping People
I like to include others as much as the next person might, but more accuracy in our speech could help tone things down at the moment. When a person talks about we, they, all, it is rarely accurate. Few things involve 100% of a specific demographic, especially the larger ones.
Men don’t speak for all 4 billion men. Women don’t all have the same values as each other. There are black conservatives and Catholic liberals.
Look around this great big world. Regardless of our physically distinctive attributes, the mindsets inside are unique to every human. Someone from the English countryside may have more in common with someone from Thailand than London.
People tend to sort their preferences on the detail of each individual topic. It is presumptive to assume a particular person will share the exact same view on a topic as you. And remember what happens when you assume.
Their is strength and power in numbers but lets relax how many people we try to include in our group. It is more honest and accurate.
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Three Keys To Life
Eat well. Sleep well. Work Well.
Everything else is easier and better if you have these three going well.
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