Why have rules or boundaries in life if they are not enforced? You might as well not have them. Chaos will eventually ensue but that is expected.
Having rules and boundaries and enforcing them occasionally or intermittently or inconsistently is another path to disaster. No one knows if they are true or worth respecting or if they can get away with things.
Again chaos will ensue.
Have sensible rules and boundaries and enforce them. That is the ideal way to go.
Push yourself to get through your own mental blocks. And nudge at other boundaries too.
Don’t take things too far. But do push.
There are some no-go boundaries for some people and some boundaries that can be crossed occasionally. Know what yours are and know the difference between them.
These boundaries will save you from painful regrets and keep you in line with your values.
We all need a little structure in our lives. Not too much, of course. However, some can be quite beneficial. Set boundaries too and you are likely to have a happier life.
These boundaries can be with friends, family, co-workers and even your partner. We have many unspoken and unwritten boundaries. These are simply cultural norms for people.
The norm could come from their family culture. Although this could differ from their religious culture. This in turn could be slightly adjusted when it comes to a regional or national culture.
I lot of people think groups are quite homogenous. That would make life, sorting and interactions so much simpler. However, it really isn’t that clear cut.
People have a view of Canadians and lump them altogether. It’s great when they say they are fun, kind and nice. However, people have different boundaries, depending on which province they are from, which city or which group.
French speakers from Quebec may be more tactile than English speakers from Toronto. The former may stand slightly closer and the later slightly further away. It may be just nuanced but boundaries can shift.
You should think about your own boundaries, in terms of physical, mental and spiritual. What is comfortable for you? And realise that those boundaries may be different from people that grew up in a different culture.
Set boundaries that work for you.
