It’s time for a self-audit. Be brutally honest with yourself. Do you let a lot of time drift by without any purpose? Watching tv or chatting to people to pass the time can provide entertainment or can be good for you socially.
However, do you spend 80% of your day on unproductive or unplanned things? Do you let things happen so following everyone else’s agenda? What about your plans? Do you have any?
If you have plans, why are you letting others distract you from what you deemed important? Tell them to call back, let their call go to voicemail or answer but be two minutes or less.
Drifting along with no purpose, no plan and no boundaries can be quite easy, but destructive in the long term, as your life plans drift away from you.
Start blocking time in your diary for your plans. Make phone calls under 5 minutes. Meet friends where you can get up and leave after 30 minutes. Focus on what your goals are rather than just drift along with whoever rings your bell.