When the sh*t is about to hit the fan, and preferably well before, get some help. Help will come in a myriad of ways, when you start seeking it. Seek and you shall find.
Even if you’re uncomfortable, go find it. You will then shift from Uncomfortable to Unstoppable.
Why don’t people hug more? A great hug is like therapy. You can really feel the warmth, the love and the intent.
Hugs are good drugs.
If people offer to help you, let them help. It can make things quicker, better and often more enjoyable.
Whether you need help at work, at home or for personal reasons, arrange that help as soon as you can.
The earlier the better and it will help you grow faster, tidy quicker, plan better and have things in place before you really need them.
Focusing on negative aspects and the 2% of people that cause harm rather than the 98% that are neutral, or lift people up, is crazy.
There is no need to tear people down, call them names, or become hostile. They may have a different life philosophy to you, see things a bit differently to you based on their experiences in life or have a different political preference, but that is ok.
Live and let live. They have come by their views just as you have come by yours. For all but a few radical outliers, we can still get along despite our different perceptions.
And it’s a lot easier to get along if people haven’t called you names, shunned you or left you in fear for your health.
You don’t have to become a cheerleader, but please be decent in your discussions.
Life has a lot to offer. But it’s mostly self serve. If you don’t see what you would like, simply ask. They may keep some items in the back for the special people who ask.
Help them when you’re 11 years old. And also help them when you’re 16, 23, 37, 58 and 72, and all other ages.
When you’re young, do the dishes, keep your room tidy, get good grades, and help pack the car. Help carry bags and lift things as well as sell stuff on eBay and fold the laundry well.
You’ll feel better for having done it when you’re older. You made a contribution. You appreciated them. Taking some of their burden can be a very big help. You might not realise how big.
When you’re older, you can fix things around the house, take them to doctors appointments or help declutter papers and things.
Go sort something right now.
You can help people improve without encouraging unhelpful thoughts and actions. Helping people is a kind thing to do. However, when you enable bad behaviour and choices, you are no longer their friend, but their enemy.
Often we say, ”No, thank you”, when offered help. For many this has simply become the habitual response. I’m suggesting we pause and consider that helping hand.
Perhaps it will lighten the load, reduce the cost, save time or simply make the task more enjoyable.
For the helper, this might help them feel useful in a world where they no longer feel they are. Perhaps they aren’t working, kids are grown up or they are no longer with their partner. Offering to help might be there best option to maintain their social circle.
Next time someone offers to help, accept it graciously. It might feel very good for both of you.
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Are we on track? Can you do this yourself? Do you need help? Would it help to have someone on your team to push you through when your discipline fades and you lose the level of responsibility or accountability you need to make the real changes you want in your life.
There are people who are willing to help. I am one of them. They can assist you in getting the results you want. You can fool some of the people some of the time but you can’t fool them.
Get some help and rock those results!
