It’s an important thing to do. Keep your word to others and to yourself. If others won’t believe what you say, it can be hard on your brand and your income. If you don’t believe what you say, it undermines your confidence and ability to achieve anything.
If you have to ask why, it’s already too late.
Sometimes you need quite a few lessons before you learn. Keep trying.
Angry outbursts are rarely a good look. Especially on adults. Get some help from books, videos or therapists. You can improve if you give it some effort. It will be worth it.
Be careful how you speak and what you say. When you get a bit excited, anxious or passionate, it’s easier to say things that alienate others, even while you might be trying to get them on your side.
Stay away from name calling and moral superiority. Stick to the facts and know they may interpret the same facts differently. Be kind. Understand your intent.
It’s too easy to lose family, friends, partners and others by chastising them or saying things that aren’t very kind, just because they have a different view of things.
Otherwise you become part of the problem, not the solution.
Keep things calm.
You don’t know how much effort is required. What effort will break your opponent? Act with persistence. Keep trying.
Listen without thinking with your lens or bias switched on. Listen to the words selected and the order they are used. Try to really understand their intent, not your programming. It is quite difficult so you will likely need quite a bit of practice. So get on that. Practice listening.
