Listen to other points of view. Listen to how things work. Your parents are great to listen to. You can learn a lot of good and bad things from your parents.
Listen to advice. Consider it well before taking it.
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Listen More.
Sure you’re smarter, better educated and have more experience. But that also gives you biases, blind spots and sometimes a dismissive overconfidence. Other times you might just be defending your position or that of your tribe.
Are you looking for solutions? Are you looking for improvement? Are you willing to be given insight that you were not aware of, missed. Or overlooked?
it’s time to listen more. You’ll be better for it.
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Whose Opinion Do You Listen To?
We listen to a wide variety of people to get different views. It’s easier, though, to choose opinions of our friends or of people who hold similar values or perspectives.
This may be more palatable or comfortable in the short term, but it may ruin you in the mid to long term. You are best to distance yourself from your emotional connection and really assess the issues with a clear and logically or rational mind.
It’s best to use data, trend analysis, forecasts and different, and even opposing, perspectives. Do you want to be accurate or just feel good and hope for the best?
Listen to intelligent arguments and then make up your own mind.
PS. Apologies for the delayed blog posts from the last few days (systems glitch) which all got sent at once in yesterdays email. Some good stuff in there! I hope their absence made you warm to them even more.
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Listen. What Do You Hear?
Notice how quiet it gets when you simply listen.
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Listen
When someone is speaking to you, listen.
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Listen To Yourself
Have you heard yourself speak recently? We make up stories all the time. We add in details without consideration. Listen to yourself speak. Then critically assess what words you are using and why.
This situation happens more often when we take someone’s words and try to make sense of them. A person will have said something and you will now try to make sense of it.
The challenge starts right there. There are a number of items to consider off the top. Firstly, who is saying this and how do you feel about them? Do they have some experience of the topic? Is this all opinion and experience based? Or can we use some facts to triangulate around?
Secondly, lets ask them to go deeper and clarify what they are saying. It’s best to get clarification from the original source. It is their precise intention that matters most in this situation.
Thirdly, in the absence of being able to question the speaker, try assessing their perspective. What could they have meant? The tougher part here is to do this without only looking from your own perspective. Try using my six chairs method to exercise your mind and consider different viewpoints. I covered this in my blog on April 24th 2020.
Otherwise, be careful you don’t make up a story that suits your mood, thoughts and comfort zone. You can easily create a story that isn’t helpful or accurate. If you have made up a story where you have filled in the blanks, go back to the start and listen to yourself.
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