Find the people that uplift you and challenge you to be the best version of yourself. Surround yourself with people that will stretch you and encourage you to do the work on yourself and maintain the discipline required to succeed in your preferred field.
Find good people, not easy people. Look for those people that will call you out on your pity party nonsense. Don’t find an easy crowd, go where the stakes are high and the challenges stretch you every day.
If you like or love someone, let them know. Tell them so they can feel it now, not later when it’s too late.
Let people know, while they’re alive, all the good things you notice about them. Say it daily. Write them notes. Send them a full page letter.
People rarely hear enough good things about them after the age of 18. Let’s change that.
When you go through hard times, you can become more resilient and eventually the pressure will form you like the elements form a diamond.
Become tough, as in resilient, not just tough like a hardened heart. Keep the magical flow of life flowing.
Once you’ve been through a difficult stretch, there’s no need to repeat it. Neither in a physical sense or in a mental, keep replaying it in your mind, sense.
I know we can get busy, frustrated or even cross, but do treat people decently. This attitude will shift the behaviour of many others and the knock-on effect will be incredible!
Spend more time with people who are trying to improve. Get yourself around people who are doing well in at least one area.
Reduce the time you spend with people who are not where you want to be or aren’t helping you get there.
Be selective.
It’s tough. But required.
Seek out people that are going where you want to be. Learn from these people. Work with these people. Travel together.
If you were heading to the centre of London, getting in a car going there would be way better than getting in a car headed to Liverpool.
So whatever you are doing in life, get around as many people as you can that are going to the same destination in life.
Get outside of your usual sphere and meet people. Go to parties and events. Call up clients. See your neighbours.
Have fun and find people you gel with.
Some people will agree with you and others won’t. At times you will see eye to eye on a matter with your best friend yet other times you will not.
And that’s ok. Carry on.
There is a lot of complexity in some people. Often this comes from turbulent experiences, though sometimes it’s their desire for a fight, drama or control.
Spot these people early and stay clear as much as you can.
