It’s nice to have a mutual understanding. Fewer words are needed. There is less thinking work required. It’s easy and more pleasant. But you won’t grow if you don’t allow your thoughts to be challenged.
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Understanding
You don’t have to agree with people all the time. However, it’s useful to pause, pay attention and really understand what someone is trying to get across to you. It can be a real challenge too, especially if you disagree with their perspective.
But everyone has their perspective for a reason. So try to understand why they have it. Oftentimes you’ll understand the person much better, which can help you accept why they think the way they do.
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People Need Encouragement
When you are having tough times, trying something new, stating an opinion or just trying to get through your day, it is always nice to have a few words of encouragement from others. People need encouragement.
It is so easy for people to criticise, condemn, chastise, laugh at and bully. It requires no interest, curiosity or understanding of the other person.
For the most part, people are trying to do their best with what they know. Give them that benefit of the doubt. Assume their intentions are good unless and until you have conclusive proof that they aren’t.
Reflect on whether you are offering enough encouragement to people. It takes so little encouragement to light a fire under someone, to build them up. Ask questions. Seek first to understand. Assume their intent is good, even if their route to get their desired outcome isn’t the one you would necessarily choose.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Stephen R. Covey
Remember, how many Presidents, Prime Ministers, Chief Medical Officers, Doctors etc said nothing in the 1800’s and early 1900’s about smoking. Finally someone took the initiative to speak up about the health issues of a very popular pastime. Going against the accepted wisdom is more easily done with some encouragement.
For those of you with kids or young relatives at primary school age, think about how you might talk down about people you disagree with, whether it is journalists, politicians or business people. Then think how you would feel if your children or young relatives treated other children like that. If it’s bullying when young people do it, it must be called bullying when adults do it. Is there ever really a good justification for it?
Imagine what we could do on this planet if everyone stopped criticising and bullying others, and were more curious and gave words of encouragement. Try catching yourself for the next 24 hours. If you’re honest, it is quite revealing.
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Be Clear About What You Can Do
In fast paced and challenging times, it can be good to pause, breathe deeply and remember the following:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can
And wisdom to know the difference.
Reinhold Niebuhr
Do what you can do today to make it a great day despite the bumps in the road.
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