This is a fabulous personal characteristic to develop.
It’s a great skill to have. Your spouse will appreciate it, as will your children. As your parents age, they’ll appreciate it more as well.
Develop this skill as soon as you can and continue to build on it through the years.
You hear a few details about a scenario. Maybe you hear it on the radio, see them in the paper or watch a segment on tv. Maybe it’s something you heard in a friend group or from your family.
Then, you fill in the blanks. Then, quickly, you make a judgement. And then you’ve closed that open loop. You have decided the answers to all those uncertain questions in your mind. Job done. Your brain can relax and work on other things.
It is so easy. Many people do this every day. When they hear about a friend in trouble, career changes, health, relationships, finances, companies struggling, or even death, they fill in all the blanks with various ideas from their mind.
Think about this today and how many times you fill in the blanks on any situation.
Then remember that most people are doing the same thing with you. And as you know, once their internal gavel falls, there is little chance of any reversal, even with ample evidence, because you can’t stop the story.
Being honest with yourself, what are your current core attributes? Are you athletic? Do you think you’re great with numbers? Would you describe your current self as slim, solid, or obese? Are you funny?
Write down 10-15 descriptive words about your current self. Then, write down 10-15 words you would prefer to be known by. Post these words by your bed. Read them out several times per day.
Keep reading them out several times per day. Notice which words make you flinch or cringe. Then dig down deep into why that is. Figure out how to make future you acceptable to your consciousness.
Enjoy your daily transformation!
They call it a dream for a reason. It’s meant to inspire you and excite your senses.
People don’t generally dream of going on a 3,000 mile donkey ride. However, one might dream of driving a very fancy car, staying in a castle or flying on a private jet.
Others may dream of owning or running a very lucrative and successful business. Some people dream of peace, winning in sporting events or having a very large income.
Whatever your dream is, make it a little bigger, work a little harder to get there, and make it a reality.
Read books, magazines, cereal boxes, newspapers and maps.
Develop the habit of reading. Learn to enjoy it. Non-fiction or fiction. Take your pick.
Learn things and exercise your brain.
Deadlines are wonderful things. They help to ensure something gets done. However, often we fool ourselves into thinking we have time before we really need to start, or it will be fine, or even the deadline is not a hard deadline.
Try that thinking with life and death.
Should you really leave it all to the last minute? If not, then you better treat everything else the same way. Don’t put it off. Don’t wait for disaster to be right around the corner.
Attack every minor item on your to do list with gusto and get it done now! Otherwise delegate or delete it.
For anything. Think through scenarios. Be prepared for different paths. Relax. You’ve got this.
Look around you. Have you ever marvelled at the incredible system our bodies are? Maybe you’ve thought it is rather amazing how every day you can turn on your tap and fresh drinking water comes out in abundance.
Waking up in itself is an incredible thing. All your blood is moving around and your heart didn’t skip a beat. It’s so wild.
Spend five minutes today in awe of how many millions of things must go well for you to enjoy your day of health, food ingestion and driving a car. Amazing!
Press on till you reach your goal.
Rescue me from myself. Everyone should consider this thought.
If you take no action, you won’t improve. Yet we can be quite lazy or procrastinate or be distractible, and then do nothing. Yet we can justify the nothing and make up our own stories about why we haven’t changed or reached our goals in 5 years.
Sometimes we want someone to come and rescue us. But be clear, no one is coming to save you. You have to rescue yourself. I strongly suggest you get a plan together with dates, times, and actions, and get working on it today.
