Look at where you want to go. Think about the options to get there. Then read an article, watch a YouTube video, listen to a podcast and ask a few people for other options. Then calmly consider your options.
At that point you can make your informed decision.
In most instances, attracting people to you, your company or your cause is the ideal way to get people on your side. It feels great to be able to offer something that other people perceive value in. And it’s also great to be naturally attracted to someone or something.
What isn’t ideal is having someone demand your attention, demand your love or demand your participation in something. That rarely feels good.
Have a think about how you involve others in your life and business. Do you offer something so good that others want to be involved or do you demand their attention, affection and participation?
Is it time to double down on your great offer or time to make some changes in your game?
People tend to avoid pain if they can. Pain can be mental, physical or spiritual. Often we make decisions based on the least amount of pain we will have to endure. That isn’t always the best decision, for others or us. When you know it isn’t the best idea, then change your decision. The added spiritual pain is unnecessary.
Think about it for a few minutes. Do not just think about what society suggests should be the thing that makes you happy. Rather, think about what brings a smile to your face every time. Is it a person, a place, an idea or a belief?
Whatever it is, find a way to get more of it. Not too much more, but enough to make you happier more often.
Decide which you would prefer to take and take it. It could be the one that is more familiar to you. Or, you could choose the road less traveled. There is also the new to you option or the fastest route or more scenic.
There are many options and qualifications to help you get what you want. Take a chance and make your best choice.
This is a good time to write down as many great things about this past year that you can remember. Hopefully this list will bring fun memories and remind you of the good times and successes you had that may be long forgotten.
Remember, by doing this, it is social proof to yourself about how much you’ve done, overcome and won in just the last 12 months. And hopefully it will inspire you for more in 2024. Get writing!
It’s a great feeling to have no schedule, commitments or to do’s. One could get used to that fairly quickly. Three or four days of that lifestyle and it could get comfortable and become the norm. Then it could be quite difficult to break out of and you could get stuck in an unproductive loop.
Ways to combat this are to keep holidays short, have some structured days (with activities, events, etc.) or have some inspiring early goals to achieve in the first week you are back.
Let me know how you get on.
Grab the moment while you can. Don’t try to hard, but don’t let it slip away either. These are precious moments that you must capture and treasure for always. For they come and go too swiftly and the feeling may never be the same again.
When people generalise they often don’t have the detail or they do but it won’t help their cause. So you need to dig for the detail. Ask the questions. Don’t get palmed off. Request the detail as they should want to share that with you if they are open minded.
Because life can be pretty full on, fast paced, full and exhausting, our brains naturally look for shortcuts. They want to use the least amount of energy and do the minimal amount of work.
For these reasons, it prefers shortcuts, generalisations, easy references and common phrases especially when they work with any biases we are holding.
We tend to use words from our work or industry, religion or culture. Doctors may use the term ‘stat’, office workers will ‘circle back’ and sportspeople get ‘in the zone’.
It is unlikely, or rare, to hear people using other groups’ words or terms. It’s hard to imagine an NBA coach telling his players to pass the ball to the point guard stat.
This helps explain why people that watch the same news channels or read similar newspapers, will see things similarly and speak the same.
Rather than think things through, and assess things in their own mind, the shortcut is to accept what they are hearing and seeing, summarise it in generalisations and pass it on. People in their group think will understand the summary terms and distill it further. Like the telephone game, the theme may remain similar but the actual details may get distorted.
Don’t let this happen to you. Think for yourself. Put the extra bit of work in, especially if you will get involved in a conversation. Also give people time and space to reflect and ask questions. Allow people to think, even if it’s different to you.
