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Balance In The Universe

Posted on November 20, 2023

People can push one way and then, once they’ve pushed too far, other people push back toward the middle ground.

This happens when the left or the right push past the centre, more than they should. Like a rubber band, the tension increases the further it’s pushed beyond its resting point. Eventually it snaps back or breaks. Neither is a good ending.

This occurs on any discussion. Everyone will be fine if small steps are taken. But if people push too far beyond the comfort zone of the others, you will find a great deal of resistance. And that often leads to momentum in the opposite direction. Keep things sensible. Or you’ll feel the backlash.

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Find Your Purpose

Posted on November 19, 2023

Your purpose can change over time. It can be to provide for your family, self-actualise, bring peace to the world, explore and discover, teach or simply move something forward.

Whatever it is, work hard at it! Every day!

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Think Like The Other Person

Posted on November 18, 2023

Perhaps it’s the hiring manager, the customer, an army general or the police that you are dealing with and you want to win over, understand or defeat. Try to stop thinking like you and what you want and try thinking like them and what they want.

This is an excellent exercise and helps broaden your mind and develop some insight, and maybe empathy, for other people and what they are trying to achieve.

These insights will help you achieve more.

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Best Of Lists

Posted on November 7, 2023

I usually find these lists quite exciting and interesting. Someone has gone out and done all the research for you and they’ve provided a ranking and review to make your large choice much easier.

The one that struck me today was a list for the best salt & vinegar chips in the UK. It’s very easy to think the top ranked crisps are ‘the best’. Yet, they are only the best for that one person providing the ranking and reviews.

Their top choice might be light on the salt yet heavy on the vinegar with a significant apple flavoured element. That may not be how you like your crisps. And they may prefer ruffles to baked or thick cut not wafer thin.

There are often lots of other elements than just what is reviewed but regardless, make sure you’re clear on all the reasons and details that went into the list-makers decision. It’s nice to have a list but not so much when it’s opposite to how you would have ranked them.

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Stay Aware

Posted on November 6, 2023

As tensions increase and the likelihood of violent encounters grows, remain vigilant and keep your eyes and wits about you. Some people value life and liberty far less than you do and are willing to risk everything to get their own way.

In a twisted irony, you may find yourself fighting for peace.

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Naming Your Child

Posted on November 5, 2023

Why did you choose the name you did for your child? Since you didn’t choose all the other names available, are you a bad person?

Humans select for preference. That means the non-selected options could be viewed as non-selected, second place or rejected. Or the name chosen could be viewed as being preferential. What’s interesting is that people prefer names for a wide variety of reasons. The name could be selected because of a father, grandmother, favourite aunt, old friend, famous actor, old boyfriend, a movie character or an ice cream flavour, to name a few influences.

When only one option can go forward, out of two options, it would be easy and very simple to deduce that the second was rejected, which feels worse than non-selected.

Selection is tricky as it often depends on so many factors. Rarely is one factor the 100% reason for something.there are often several reasons for any decision, though lots of studies and discussions want to boil it down to one.

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Seeing What You Want To See

Posted on November 4, 2023

Having verbal conversations can be tricky. Everyone sees, in their mind, what they want to see. Because the bias comes in and words spoken can be misinterpreted, misunderstood, summarised or even misused, it can work better if things are written down. A desire to find the truth of a specific reality, regardless of your personal position, will also help you ask good questions and make progress on the topic.

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Could There Be Another Reason?

Posted on October 30, 2023

Often we react and don’t take the necessary time to stop, consider and respond. We can see something happen and immediately come up with our version of the story. This usually involves our own bias, what we’re thinking about in that moment, what we experienced at the time and a thought of fear or strength.

Many times things happen for a reason we could not even consider. Or it will be a mix of various reasons that an observer may have no knowledge about.

When you’re about to comment on something, check your bias, and consider alternative positions and events that could have swayed the situation. It’s not always as simple and straightforward as Iwe make it up to be in our head.

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What Are Lies?

Posted on October 30, 2023

Remember, to lie you have to know the correct answer, believe it is correct and then say something else.

Just because someone has a different opinion to you, does not mean they are lying. They just see it differently.

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