If you want different results or outcomes, you will need to do things differently from before.
Are you even aware of what will need to be done differently?
Are you even willing to do the things differently, every day, even when you don’t want to?
Discipline. Sacrifice. Resilience.
You can live a better life if you choose to put the work in. Otherwise, expect more of what you’ve had.
Like a grocery list, you sit with pen and paper and look around and think about what it is you really would like.
Rather than jam and milk, you might think about a month in Peru in their summer, hiking the Inca trail, spending two weeks on a quiet beach on Zanzibar or walking part of the Great Wall of China.
You can write out the qualities of the perfect partner for you or the outline of the book you want to write. You might also note down the fitness level you would like to maintain in your 40s, 50s, and 60s.
It’s quite a powerful process to write these things out and bring them to life. You’ll feel better for the process. Then you can organise when and how you’ll do them. Then go and enjoy your dreams while you can.
You can change your circumstances.
Have hope. Create a vision. Make a plan. Work towards it.
Get through a day, a week and a month. It will get easier. Five years from now you’ll look back and be astounded with how far you’ve come and how different your life is.
Like in a game of chess, every move gets you closer to an outcome. The better you train, and play, the more favourable the outcome should be for you.
Life is very much the same.
Go test drive a car that is nicer than yours. Have a coffee in an opulent hotel restaurant. Find a great deal on the least expensive night of the year and stay in a nicer hotel than you usually would. Rent a slightly nicer rental car than normal.
Go shopping in more expensive stores during their sales. Pick one item you love, that is at an affordable price for you, and buy it.
As you slowly upgrade your experiences and surroundings, it will change the way you think, feel and experience or see the world.
Even if you don’t choose to upgrade permanently, due to budget or other considerations, treat yourself to it once a month or 4 times a year at least.
You’ll appreciate the differences.
Time heals wounds but you have to be patient. People need time to process information so you need to have patience.
You can attract things into your life but you need to act now and yet still be patient.
It’s a great skill to master. Practice it every day.
Stay in the flow. Don’t get sidetracked. Remain obsessed on the one super goal. Work until exhausted or completed. Start immediately after any rest and repeat until completed.
When an opportunity looks good, jump fast. Moving quickly can make all the difference.
Do your due diligence, but do it quickly. Work with your gut feeling but have data that backs it up reasonably well.
Use this four step process to reach your exciting dreams. These are the very basic steps.
It does take some effort to think things through and to write it all down. The writing helps you hone in on the specific detail.
Take 60 minutes every month and review this plan. You should add new dreams to it then too.
Go on! Dream a little.
Get creative. Remember your childhood dreams. Think of new dreams. Write all of these down.
Get them in some sort of priority order. Perhaps start with the easiest to achieve. Then the least expensive to most expensive. You definitely want a list of things that are to do before I am unable to.
Start mapping these dreams out on a calendar. Things you’ll do this year go on there now and the rest get years and months written next to each item.
Get these dropped into your life. Then work like heck to make each one happen.
