If you’re struggling to change a habit, consider how you are training your mind to be different. The easiest way to train your mind is to believe it’s true. Visualise.
Then just repeat that exhaustively. And also find out what people like that do and think. Then do that!
Let yourself dream about who you are or could become. Imagine your life, body, relationships, finances, holidays, home and pass times exactly how you would dream to have them in the perfect world.
Let your fears and concerns of it not working out simply subside. Summon the feeling you would have if your dreams all turned out true forever. Now use that amazing feeling of relaxation, contentment and confidence to remind you every moment of every day how your life is becoming.
Believe you will get there. Then simply act accordingly.
If you see yourself as an athletic, fit and healthy person, do what one of those people would do. They would probably be disciplined with their food intake (types and amounts), their daily exercise, the amount of water they drink and how much sleep they schedule into their life.
You can be the opposite too. Just do what unathletic, unfit and unhealthy people do. You can achieve this too. Simply build habits and be disciplined around eating poor quality food, and just a little bit more than you should each time. Sit more and move less. Drink small amounts of water and have an erratic and poorly executed sleep regime. You can become as unfit and uninspired as you want to be. It’s success but in a different direction.
Do the above exercise with your money, your relationships and your career and notice how different your life could be in just six months. It would be a world of difference in one little year. And then it could be like that for the next 20 or 50 years of your life.
Gee, why wouldn’t you start working on this today? Right now! Your new amazing life awaits! It’s just one little mindset shift away. Start accepting this new amazing life in your mind every day. And act accordingly.
It really does help. If nothing else, it makes the whole experience and journey better. Even a not very pleasant one.
Sometimes life gets in the way of your plans. Assess, adjust, and act accordingly.
Some people will cheer when they hear news they like. They may think that they themselves, their team or group is winning. And winning feels good. We can feel confident, righteous, vindicated or correct.
However, sometimes the win happens without people realising the prize for winning.
Passing your army physical feels like a great win. Though now you’ve got to put your life on the line. Winning the promotion over others can feel wonderful. However, now you must work harder and for longer hours. Although there is more pay, you earn less on an hourly basis.
Winning sometimes means getting to do more exciting and beneficial stuff but it can also require more sacrifice.
If you draw the short straw, you win. But it is hardly ever the short straw that you want to win.
You belong to many communities. There are your school, sports clubs, friendship groups, families and political affiliations.
However, these are often shifting and sometimes changing. Keep your eye out for this.
One day you are in one friend group and then, voilà, your accepted in another. But then the original one dismisses you as a traitor and you’re gone.
Things change.
Experts know a lot about one thing. This is fantastic as they can give you depth on a subject. However, because of the time they’ve spent on one item, they will not be as aware of other subjects.
So understand what the expert has to say and encompass that into your own life. Just don’t let their potential myopia lead you astray.
Injuries happen. Physical, emotional and even spiritual. Be sure to allow ample time to heal. Life is long enough so don’t short-change yourself on the healing process. Otherwise, you may not heal sufficiently and have to go thorough a very similar thing again.
Learn and apply your knowledge. Get to full strength before setting off again.
What will you focus on as you grow older? Will your focus be positive or not? Does gratitude and appreciation, for all you have had, come easily or will you dwell on regret?
Practice gratitude.
What would your Blue Plaque say? How would a biographer tell your story? What would you want on your Wikipedia page? Will your grandchildren retell your story?
Stop and think about your life. Where do you definitely want to go and what do you desperately want to do? What do you want to avoid for sure?
Then set your sail and focus on that direction and that destination.
It’s always best to think long term and where you want to end up. You’ll make different and better decisions. And your journey will align to your long term goals, not just the whims of the moment.
