Lots of people have a to do list. It might encompass large bucket list goals or simply little admin items you need to sort out tomorrow.
Now add another list to your world. The To Be list is one which will help you work on bigger goals and personal goals.
Poossibilities here include, to be kinder, to be a great wife every day, to be a Neuro surgeon or to be on time or early for everything. Try it.
Something as simple as buying a new, somewhat fancy pen, can put a little spring in your step and bring your shoulders back so you walk with a little more confidence.
Buying a new item of clothing or a tool for your job can give you a similar feeling. You don’t need massive expenditure to get these great little jumps in life appreciation. If you make a few small but strategic purchases on high impact items or services, you can feel your life get exponentially better rather quickly.
Just don’t buy loads of things that don’t give a lasting impact. Keep the upgrades small, simple and high impact, otherwise you’re just wasting money.
There are millions of books yet how many have we read? Over 8 billion people live on Earth today yet how many have you met or heard of even? Every event can be viewed in a myriad of ways and yet you will only ever know one way (yours) for most of them.
Yet we give our opinions like we are an all-knowing super-computer crunching trillions of terabytes of data per millisecond and can confidently give an excellent response to anything.
Though in reality, we barely read half an article written by a biased journalist and believe we are sufficiently well-informed to let loose over a glass of white wine at lunch.
Perhaps get some alternative viewpoints, consider they may also be valid and try to uncover the reality, even if you don’t like that answer. You owe it to yourself to be better informed, less ignorant of real options and to develop objective thinking beyond the tiny bubble you exist in.
Think things through with a little more curiosity, skepticism and thirst for real information in place of the spoon-fed biased reportage you binge on currently.
Why does party sound more fun than discipline or focus? Party and focus are both five letters long. They weigh the same. However, their associations are different and so is the sound they make.
Being a liberal often sounds more fun and enjoyable than being a conservative, but it doesn’t mean it is better. Think about different words as you go through the week ahead and weigh them against each other.
There are moments in life where you’ll lose sleep. This can include studying for exams, preparing a big case, seeing a magical skyline with stars and being in Seattle.
Regardless, sometimes you have to push through. Do it! It’s worth it.
Before or during a discussion or argument, agree to define what terms you’re both using. It is often quite useful since one persons anti-social behaviour is another persons fun party.
Think about what would bring you peace, for a moment or forever even. Have you considered what that would be? Really put some hard thinking time into this topic for a few days or weeks.
Consider lots of options. You may be surprised at what you learn about yourself!
Hate is not usually your vibe, but you have let your discontent simmer so long it has now boiled over. In addition, your friends have helped fan the flames of your discontent providing examples to remind you why you should feel fine with these tormented feelings.
Sometimes we can’t stop ourselves from reaching the edge of the abyss. We might then glimpse a different perspective. We might want to adjust our position a little. But will we?
Often we feel we’ve gone too far to turn back. We’re now travelling with what were like minded people. To adjust our course we may have to go our separate way. And that can be lonely. And, possibly worse, we could take a lot of heat from our former travelling tribe.
Yet, if you don’t adjust or turn now, you’ll be so far off your own moral compass and value system that you might even start to agitate against yourself.
Best to put a stop to the charade now. Begin to live with the right path and not the wrong people. Before it’s too late.
Starting projects can be quite easy. You’re usually full of enthusiasm and optimism and up for something refreshingly new.
However do make sure you limit the number of projects you start and make sure you’re fully finishing these projects too.
Many people struggle to succeed because they keep adding projects that dilute their time and energy. Then they leave the open loops unfinished and on their mind. Better to start fewer projects and complete more so a higher percentage is completed. 100% would be quite extraordinary!
While you stick to your convictions, you should also get quite curious as to why people are challenging them.
Don’t just blindly follow your convictions when others are challenging them with considered arguments. Listen to what they are saying. See if any, some or all of what they say could be right. Then investigate it further to test the ideas even more.
The movie The Big Short is an excellent example of this. The bankers that thought Michael Burry was nuts, should have gotten curious, instead of dismissive and aloof, and gone and done some harsh research. Their lives might have turned out quite differently.
