Whether it is a baseball game, person, an item or time, take the time to mourn your loss properly. There are 5 stages of grief and some extend that to 7.
Look those up and allow yourself to go through them. If you skip steps or the process, it will stay with you and be damaging in other ways.
Losing and loss can be incredibly difficult. It all depends on your attachment to that which was lost and a new vision of life that you can imagine.
Remember the good. Often.
Timing is a critical part of life. Some timings you can affect and some you cannot.
When you decide to leave a party, that is your impact on timing. When your favourite superstar arrives at the party 10 minutes after you have left, that’s timing not in your control.
Everything is based on timing. A second too early or too late can change the course of your life. Yet half of it you can’t even control.
Focus on the timing you can affect and let the other ones be what they are.
The less friction there is in your life, the more you can enjoy those activities you truly want to spend time on.
Design your life’s activities to have the least friction possible. This can be direct flights, grocery delivery, electronic banking, and a PA, EA or family office.
Quite often a little extra money can purchase extra efficiency and is well worth it many times.
Be sure to make the distinction that you pay for efficiency rather than just comfort. Paying more for a direct flight is efficient. Paying more for Business Class is mostly adding comfort, especially if you still have to have a connection.
Plan a little but don’t obsess. Being more efficient with your time is mostly about planning and looking for the opportunities.
When considering giving your opinion, it’s helpful to reflect on things a little bit from various points of view first. You won’t have lived in their shoes but you can think a little about what that would mean if you could.
Also, what was this topic like 200 years ago? What would be the ideal outcome today?
Can you think of a few more ways to consider the question from a different perspective?
Focus on what you would love, not what you would not want in your life. Whatever you are thinking about, that’s what you’re gonna get more of. So if you think of things that you don’t want, you’ll get more of them and if you think of things that you do want, you’ll get more of those.
Your mindset is incredibly powerful, so learn to use it very well. Become a specialist in how to use your mind.
What are your top thoughts on a given day? Which three or five key positions continue to circulate in your mind? Review these thoughts and why you are having them.
Are these thoughts helpful to you or someone else?
Assess each word. Be aware of your own bias. Stay level headed. Consider that everything you’re hearing could be a lie. Check sources.
If you could work incredibly hard for 10 years, and sacrifice significantly, to create lasting world peace and prosperity for everyone, but you would get no credit for any of it, and die in obscurity, would you do it?
Can you do a good deed without telling anyone at some point what you did?
Can you succeed at something yet not signal your achievement, or seek recognition?
Ego can drive us forward, to achieve great things, but it can also hinder many people. Healthy sharing of your success is one thing, though demanding attention for it is another. It’s often a fine line, and if you remove your bias, sometimes you’ll be able to see it.
Look to simple solutions, especially to complex problems. Small, simple steps, building on one another, will eventually drive the best result.
Decide to be in awe of the world around us. As I look around the room, I am grateful for all of the people who conceived of all the products I can see.
In addition, I am grateful for all of the people, I will never know or meet, who financed these products through R&D and manufacture. And finally, I’m grateful to all of the people who worked in the companies, the supply chains, and the delivery units, that enabled these products to surround me in this room.
Sure, I went out and bought these items, so the effort doesn’t seem that incredible. However, the whole idea of each one of these products began years before I decided it was a product I needed and was willing to spend my hard earned money on.
Just think about all the sourcing of the raw materials that went into a plug, a lamp, a painting, a wood carving, a table, a ceiling fan, bedsheets, and a pen.
When you stop and think about all of this, it is really hard not to be in awe of the world we live in.
