Sit down or go for a walk but talk things through. Do it calmly and respectfully. It can be good to have the person that is speaking hold a small ball or pen and pass it to the other person when they would like to talk.
Have a clear purpose or outcome in mind and stay focused on it. Write down the final result and also note when your next discussion is and, if you can, what you’ll be discussing so you can both think about it in advance.
When you imagine your future, whether career, sports, marriage, house, retirement or anything else, why not start with amazing?!
Why start with just a little bit better than right now? When you can dream, dream big! So when you dream about your life, dream as massively big as you can imagine!
Then work back a little and create the plan you’ll need to achieve this amazing. Then, immediately, start working a few minutes, hours, days, and weeks on those plans until you achieve amazing!
Writing is great for focus and detail and having a permanent record.
However, speaking in person is so much quicker.
With enough information, everything makes sense.
If something doesn’t make sense in your head, you don’t have enough information. Go find it, observe or sit and wait for it. Once you have enough information, you’ll be amazed.
A 56 year old has experienced 1,761,177,600 seconds of life and experience. Some of those will have been joyous while others physically painful or emotionally crushing. Still, many others were quite normal and some were mesmerising or soul-soothing.
All of those seconds and experiences create the person at that moment. One second earlier or later and they are different again. Just like the world around us; constantly evolving.
To know someone’s full life experience would take exactly all their seconds of life. Less than that and you may only be seeing the highlights or lowlights.
Cuddle your wife or husband.
Cuddle up on the sofa to watch a movie.
Cuddle up in bed. Or snuggle up. Your choice.
It’s warm, loving and relaxing. It soothes the soul.
One thought, one word or one action can change your life forever. One person, one child, or one hug can begin a whole new path.
One kind moment, one promotion or one car journey can change your world.
One great summer, one kindred spirit or one peaceful, reflective moment can rearrange your thoughts.
The power of one is significant.
Be kind. Be hopeful. Forgive. Go with grace.
Thoughts change as well as circumstances and perspectives. So keep an open mind while you’re assessing your options.
Sometimes it’s helpful to remain open minded even after decisions have been made. That’s why there’s a 14 day cooling off period after product purchases in the UK. People get more information or simply change their minds.
You have to make millions of choices in life, so, for the big ones at least, choose wisely.
Remember too, little choices can eventually make a big impact.
What do you believe in? Seriously.
Be clear and get comfortable with it. No more hiding and pretending. Write it down. Say it out loud.
This is a fundamental moment and milestone in your life. Declare it. And move on.
